Please join my wife and I in prayer and celebration for our 27th year wedding anniversary!Truly a miracle and gift of grace and mercy from my Higher Power ,whom I choose to call God! In 1983 ,a year before we got married,my wife,(3rd)told me if I didnt stop my insanity she was leaving.She could no longer watch me die.She gave me a time limit,and what do you think ,she left..Good I says,dont let the door hit you in the ..... on the way out...See I was used to failed relationships ,there was no time for anyone but "ME" We got a name for that!!!Anyway thru another year of the continued plummeting down into the depths of darkness and a final morning of an emotional acceptance of utter defeat, I surrendered in '84,,,didnt know how I was going to do it, but I either continued on to jails ,institutions,derilication or death or try to find a new way to live. An 86 year old man,my 1st sponsor showed me some signs of light and the tables were set to move forward, a day at a time,doing some work ,learning who I was and that even though the substance was put down my attitudes and behaviors had to change or I would just refund my misery! God truly sends people in our lives and I finally became receptive. Our love has grown immensely from day to day,being in love even more today than yesterday.Though we are 13 years apart ,I have learned so much from my wife,her undying faith ,her selfless acts of reaching to others and her tolerence(living with me!!!!)Anyway,remaining God centered and continually doing the work of our process and living my life ,to the best of my ability incorporating these principles in my daily actions has truly helped me move closer to becoming all God intended me to be. If you are struggling in a relationship,or just can't ever see how one could work out for you, I am not trying to pour salt in your wounds,I can truly identify,,remember,we begin by surrender to our illness,working to remain "spiritually fit" a day at a time ,and continue to do some work,and believe me there are still times when my darlin says to me" Mike ,you are some piece of work!!! My friends have even said that :) :)Anyway,the message is hope and the promise of freedom from active addiction and letting our lives be guided by that Power greater than we, Believe me ,it has not been all roses,but we do know how to take our trials and not waste them, find the lesson and move forward.If you are new here or just coming around,jump in,learn about your disease, put down the substance and begin your journey toward a life better than you have ever known.We are here for each other, no big I's or little U's just one to another trying to share our experience,strength and hope in a loving and caring manner...Have a blessed and productive day!! (oh yeah we are goin to Jersey shore for 3 days,no children,work,phones just God ,the seagulls, and each other Im ready!!!! :)
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Hi Mike, congrats to you and your wife, have a wonderful time. My wife and I celebrated 14 on Tuesday. We're down in Key Largo for the week, scuba diving.
Awesomely humble post. You got prayers from out here in the Pacific and all of our prayers come with HP's Aloha. 27 years of wedded Bliss is hard to top on just one weekend and then the idea is not to top the 27 years at all huh? Just continue having more of it...one step at a time. Hope the weather is good to you both.
