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Recently  i have been faced with having to alter my meeting schedule to attend graduate school. Two  members of my home group,  have confronted me about the fact that i have gone to a different meeting to accomadate my school schedule. I feel these individuals are attempting to manipulate me by attempting to make making me feel guilty.  Do I respond ? My sponsor says to ignore them.  Am I doing any thing wrong?  Is it wrong for individuals to attempt to do this.



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Thanks...junior for the topic.

No one is perfect, and you will find difficult and unpleasant people everywhere. Learning to deal with them is a skill, and an opportunity to practice our AA principles, like putting principles before personalities. Dealing with life on life's terms isn't easy so proceed with caution. 

My sponsor analogizes it this way: "We may be new to AA but we're not new to the world". How true...If Switching groups is your only viable option, so be it. We hope you enjoy graduate school, regardless of the annoyances. Your only concern -besides attending school- is to remain sober and you're doing that regardless of your meeting schedule. These people should support that decision -period. No confrontation necessary... 

~God bless~



-- Edited by Mr_David on Tuesday 17th of May 2011 01:00:57 AM

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Thank you very much

God bless

 



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Hi Junior, Welcome to MIP.

 On the one hand the group members should be concerned about you and ask what is going on,  that's what we do. One of the reasons for having a homegroup is so people get to know you and expect to see you at the meeting and notice if you are missing. 

The thing you should do is advise the group of your new situation, letting then know you will will have to join another group for the time being.

I guess there is a line between confrontation and concern, they need to understand that our situations change so don't take anything personal.

It is their business to ask and your business to tell

Make sure you join another homegroup and keep coming back!!

I hope this helps



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This forum is the only one that is truly loving, kind and understanding. I have tried afew in desperation to get my life organized. One thing I remember was to go to as many meetings in as many days as I could. The first two weeks I did, I saw two familiar faces at all of them. With two of the meetings i felt as if it was 'their group'. Of the 10 or so, only two talked. There was stillness in the air. I was one of two women there. There was silence and i thought I just had to speak my truth, although I wanted it to sound more genuin than I felt it did. About a mom drinking, loosing credibility even when sober. Realizing I couldn't drink like a lady, as some men cannot drink like a gentlemen. I realized that after a few pages of rreading the Big Book. After that last meeting, I didn't feel compelled to go back because i felt I held everyone back. My first meeting last month was amazing and I had connected with that group wll. I am also leaving the area, and will have to fine a new group (or groups??) knowing this I did not get a sponsor here.
Here, however, I feel comfortable and free to talk, without recognizing neighbours (I know, we're all supposed to be in the same boat).

I just want to thank everyone for the warm welcome. I have tripped a few times these last few weeks and am rereading chapters of the Big Book.
Now I just want my daughters back. Thank you for listening.

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I have always been encouraged to try multiple meetings. Its nice to break out of your everyday meeting at times to get a differnt perspective on things. Just smile and say thanks for caring. I admire that meetings are important to you and you fit them in with your busy schedule. Thats what its all about!! biggrinwink  Keep up the good work in all you do!



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