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sol


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Hi, my name is Sol Auerbach. I run a charity called "The Better Life: the Quit Smoking and Substance Abuse Society". Its a little known charity based in NY in which im just getting off the ground. with this charity I give out free books to help people stop smoking, drinking, and drugs.

My question here is as follows:

There are many people I know who dont ordinarily drink, but when it comes to certain holidays (differs, depending on the person and his/her cultural background) a few times a year they claim they just HAVE to get drunk in order to dance real well and have a great time. I personally dont feel this way, i can dance real crazy with no alcohol at all. But how do I teach people that you do not need any alcohol in order to dance real well, and have a great and crazy time on all lively holidays?

Please post any response you can here and/or email it to me at sober365@yahoo.com

thanks, Sol auerbach.



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Hello Sol, welcome to the board. I don't have an answer for that, but I'm sure that some of our requlars will have some ideas.



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Aloha Sol...also welcome to the board.  As to your question for me...I tell them and then kill all expectations as to what they do with the information.  Funny thing thinking about your question and my experiences.  After I learned what you know I stopped drinking and...haven't danced a whole lot since.   Hmmmm   Anyhow...no expectations is best cause you get to give your message and not feel frustrated when they don't follow thru.  Drinking and drugging with life is big...and old.  What I do is speak with those people who are becoming aware and want to know how to stop.   I know how to stop myself from drinking and drugging.  That took lots and lots of other people who had the process and were willing to show me how too.  For that I am grateful..."that" is AA, best known as Alcoholics Anonymous.  Go get some literature at an open meeting.

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It felt awkward for me at first, but like anything...it just takes practice. People need to get out of their comfort zones.

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To dance well sober would mean taking lessons and really dancing well.

 I't a lot easier to get drunk so you either think you are dancing well, or just don't care biggrin

IDK,   It's nice that you though to come here and asked experienced drinkers,  but most of us here are not too concerned about what responsible social drinkers do on their wild nights out.



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Hi 'Sol...

I agree with dean...don't have any clue in that matter. If it was up to me, I would dance anyway, regardless of how stupid I look. That's just me though...Good Luck.



-- Edited by Mr_David on Tuesday 29th of March 2011 12:52:42 AM

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"we will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.... LOL

I've always loved dancing, long before my alcoholism manifested itself, it's always been a sensory thing for me. I prefer dancing sober because I'm not making an ass out of myself anymore, I'm more "with" the people around me. Recovery has been about "feeling" again, hearing the music and then moving my body with it... "feeling" the mood of the sound.  Dancing is a joyful expression of being in my body, of being alive..... it's about staying in the moment, about "being"....... and not necessarily "doing."

Ever see Will Ferrell dance? My kids and I like to do the sprinkler and the fax machine, but we make up our own too..... hahahahaha

Life is short. Have fun. Love and laugh, that's my goal.



-- Edited by gladlee on Tuesday 29th of March 2011 07:16:35 AM

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I think this is funny, as drunk people only THINK they dance well~ or they don't care if they don't dance well as their inhibitions are lowered and ego/false self confidence is heightened! If you think about it, if drunks can't walk a straight line, what makes people think they are dancing better drunk? Probably the same thing that makes them think they can drive well drunk, too...

I like to believe I am dancing better now, as I'm not falling on my ass, hanging sloppily all over random dudes, tripping and stumbling, spilling drinks all over people, etc. Actually, to be honest with you, I don't care how I'm dancing now! :) I just am having a good time with good people...and that's what it's all about. In my experiences at sober dances, I have noticed that there isn't the typical over-concern about one's image or appearance, nor is there DRAMA- drunken people starting fights or getting jealous for real or imagined reasons. No one cares if you dance with their man, because there is mutual respect and trust. I cannot explain why...perhaps it has something to do with knowing we have a single common purpose and are united in our recovery program. The vibe is positive, light hearted, and fun! I find myself dancing goofy and letting my inner child rejoice and celebrate life! It is a whole new experience, and I highly recommend it.

This is only what I've experienced, and I am a shy, introverted person with NO dancing skill! :) Heather



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