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Mad_Jasper


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I can't say that I really understand that I was an alcoholic until a week or so after I quit drinking.  Aside from the one night I exploded at my wife, I was pretty much a happy drinker (at least as it appeared to others).  

Ironically, the man that helped me recognize my alcoholism and join AA is now on a self-destructive path since his wife left him.  I speak to him daily... just listening.  Reminding him that I love him and that he had six years sober at one point.. only relapsing a few weeks ago.  I've visited him twice and I'm seeing pain that I have never witnessed in a human being before.  I called him this morning around 10 and he was already wasted... could barely speak... vomiting.   It is a horrible thing to witness and I am so thankful that I didn't get that far... though I know I now have the potential.

I fear I'm watching this man drink himself to death.

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Hi,
We do get to learn from other peoples successes as well as failures.
But for the Grace of God go I.
Wayne


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LinBaba


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Toad wrote:

Hi,
We do get to learn from other peoples successes as well as failures.
But for the Grace of God go I.
Wayne



Quoted for truth, alcoholics drink, that's what we do, what we have is a daily reprieve contingent upon our spiritual fitness, if we fail to enlarge our spiritual life, we drink eventually, that's just how that is

 



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This is why they say not to place anything or anyone above your sobriety. He apparently was placing the wife above sobriety. Without the wife....no reason to stay sober and he lost his wife anyhow. For me...I just know I chose sobriety to have a life. Not to have a specific relationship last or job... I wanted a life and I wanted to be free from alcohol. I pray that no break up, no job, no loss ever deters me from this journey.

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Might try getting him to a meeting with you...It could happen.   smile

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Mad_Jasper


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I have and he backs out.

However, I spoke with him this morning and he said he feels much different about today.  It's the best he's sounded in a few weeks. 

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I ended up 12 stepping the guy who 12 stepped me, he went back out behind unresolved grief issues, I took him to a meeting hammered picklefaced drunk, he shared, he cried, he hasn't had a drink since, that had to be close to 18 years ago

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