I've had quite a few friends step up for me the last week and offer me encouragement, an ear, and when needed, advice. Sadly absent from that is my current wife. I have not spoken to or seen her since she left, aside from a few text messages arranging for her move her stuff. She knows nothing about my current struggle, and apparently doesn't care. Kicking her out definately was the wrong thing to do, but I think a marriage should survive one horrible day, especially when there had been so many good ones.
The biggest surprise has been my ex-wife. We were married for almost 17 years. It was a hard marriage and at the end, I left her after a 3 year affair with my current wife. She calls me several times a day... offers me encouragement... reminds me that deep down, Im still the man I used to be, despite that my actions tell me otherwise. Both she and her husband have been nothing but supportive of me and my endeavor to clean up and live right.
I never thought I'd be thankful for my ex-wife, but I am.
Seems like your ex and her husband are instruments of your HP. Supportive friends are great also and be careful of advise from well meaning, non-experienced people. Stick with the fellowship with an open mind and build an attitude of gratitude for what gifts you now have.
