There are writings that tell us 'RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE TERRIBLY PAINFUL AREAS!!
It is also true that 'IF SOMEONE IS NOT TREATING YOU WITH LOVE AND RESPECT,IT IS A GIFT IF THEY WALK AWAY FROM YOU.IF THAT PERSON DOESN'T WALK AWAY,YOU WILL SURELY ENDURE MANY YEARS OF SUFFERING WITH HIM OR HER.WALKING AWAY MAY HURT FOR AWHILE, BUT YOUR HEART WILL EVENTUALLY HEAL,THEN YOU WILL BE FREE TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. (2nd agreement)
We have spent days,weeks,months ,years even decades with little self worth,twisted thinking and feelings of hopelessness while in active addiction(I will keep this on me)I no longer am willing to be a punching bag for pain.God loves me and I love you(I may not like you too much!!!)but I work on that,a day at a time.When were caught in the "grip" and thats "life on lifes' terms situations, not the substance,remember as our literature tells us 'our real purpose is to be ofmaximum service to God and the people about us"I know I have stayed in situations way past the time to leave. but thru practice of spiritual principles and applying these into my life, today I seek love and respect today and I teach people how to treat me! Our process teaches us all a "new way to live" so truly blessed!!!
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
'IF SOMEONE IS NOT TREATING YOU WITH LOVE AND RESPECT,IT IS A GIFT IF THEY WALK AWAY FROM YOU.IF THAT PERSON DOESN'T WALK AWAY,YOU WILL SURELY ENDURE MANY YEARS OF SUFFERING WITH HIM OR HER.WALKING AWAY MAY HURT FOR AWHILE, BUT YOUR HEART WILL EVENTUALLY HEAL,THEN YOU WILL BE FREE TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. (2nd agreement)
I read this in tears tonight.... It is so so true.
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
Hey Lee the Four agreements a little sppiritual book written by a guy named rUIZ
i READ IT PERIODICALLY AT WORK
1) BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD 2) DONT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY 3)DONT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS 4)ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
A lot of "donts' but its got great perspective ,probably about 15 minutes of reading but more of a reflection type of wring...the dont take anything personally was really good for me,life has always taught us to 'take things personally and it is a reenforcement of what its really about..its about 4inches by 4 inches!!
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Hey Bill For me,love and respect are intertwined... I try and focus on how I believe the God of my understanding loves me and how the 2 emotions intertwine.I have been in quite a few "sick' relationships,where I actually thought I was in love but did have no respect for other person,Totally used them up with all my self absorbed stuff,had no respect for them in any sense and felt totally empty and spiritually dead. Love can mean a lot of different things to different people,but for me one runs with the other,especially I see it in my 3rd marriage to my wife whom I totally love and respect)I also am a firm beleiver in teaching others how to treat us..Now that also surmises that you have respect for yourself,something that for me I gained over years,getting closer to my HP instilling spiritual principles in my life and walking the walk.......For me,if you say you love me ,respect comesalong with it..,If it doesnt I am more than likely call you on it...just my stuff.............
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Hey Bill! check it out..I was just on the way to pick up my 24 year old and his girlfriend,take them to methadone clinic,do some errands etc and I was thinking a prime example of how someone can love you and yet not respect you.I know he loves me dearly but has robbed our family for $$$ to get his fix a few times.That defintely shows no respect.So I am kind of looking at it one sided from my perspective.I will continue to teach you how to treat me,but it may not always come to fruition.Obviuosly everyone is not in the same space as far as their relationship with their HP etc.I cant just look at things from my side of the coin,I am pretty anal about getting respect and again will call you on it if I am not getting it and in my life I always try and be respectful but you can see a lot of I's and 'me's here.Today in my immediate relatioships I do still continue to give and seek respect but it may not happen on all sides.My children and all others I am in contact with know where I stand on this but we dont always get what we expect.Only God is consistent and thats where I continue to reach for..thanks for stimulating this medulla of mine...,,it takes time for it to get up to its full 10% :) :)
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
