Hey dean! Hey pink! Im living on a horse ranch in washington st, which doubles as a sober-living house. What has worked? Working with other alcoholics, mostly. I've stalled a bit on 9th step but praying for the willingness..i am still having cravings most days but i do not dwell there long. I gotta take it in small increments, daily 1st step.
I recall praying that this is the direction you would take (sober living and getting a way from your parents). There are not many active members here living in a recovery house. A LARGE portion of alcoholics and addicts do need that. Whatever you have to share about this could really help a ton of people. (not that you don't help others and haven't helped others already on here).
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Thanks pink. The tough part about living here is watching residents die (two since christmas) and having guys you have become really close to leave and go back to their lives. Four guys are leaving at the end of the month. I have to admit im getting a little "trunky" (term we use here for when people start future-tripping). This was my first long-term rehab experience after a slew of detoxes and IOPs. It has definately forced me to evaluate things and has given me perspective. Having an addict/alcoholic as a roommate and no tv for six months (don't really miss it) you get accustomed to interacting with people and practising principles before personalities lol.
Dods, hang in there. Make a year. I got sober in an AA club. It had a bulletin board where advertised sober houses to share. I did this for 4 years. I had room mates with between 3 and 10 years. It really showed me that it's possible to live a normal, well adjusted, life without without drinking and drugging. I don't think that I'd be here if it wasn't for those room mates.
Yea i dunno what my plan is. Im getting tired of this place though honestly. Been to a meeting every day for six months. Im in a bad place
Early sobriety can be a bitch, maybe you are uncomfortable because it's time to leave? I don't know
I do however lose perspective and had a lot of "make believe" problems my first few years of sobriety, I mean they seemed real as heel, job troubles, girlfriend issues, money stuff, so after 3 years I started drinking and got an abrupt lesson the difference between make believe problems and real problems, like risking my life at work, getting tossed out of my house, losing my career, and going to jail
I was like "OH, no SHIT!!! OK, these are "real" problems, all that other shit was in my head"
So now I can tell the difference (sometimes) between the two, and the thing I learned about "make believe problems" that are in my head is they will only kill me if I listen to them, with "real" problems the difference is they will kill me if I DON'T do something about them
My head was an ugly place for a long time, and it was actively trying to kill me, I got help by finding a sponsor, a support group, and working the steps, now even then I drank after 3 years but when I came back I was a little more willing, honest and open minded, and I learned the difference between make believe and real, and I learned they can both kill me, and I learned I needed help telling the 2 apart sometimes
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