If we are to learn to cope with our illness and our life, we must begin focusing on solutions, not just on our problems.
But this means we must change our attitude and outlook. We can no longer live as if there are only problems in our lives. We can no longer consider ourselves victims and hold on to the attitude that our life will never change. Nor can we continue to be consumed by self-pity. If so, we will fail to take responsibility for finding solutions. We will continue to live within what we have grown to know so well: our problems.
Do I let my problems define me today or do I seek solutions?
