When you do all the talking you only learn what you already know. --Anonymous
One of the secrets for finding answers to any emotional problem is to talk with fellow members we can confide in fully. We don't need to look any farther than our sponsor or the members who are part of our recovery. We quickly find those who always hear with a complete understanding about how we feel.
Such friends are perfect listeners because they have suffered and survived the same types of problems. They are compassionate and sympathetic. They listen to us patiently while we completely describe our emotions. Only then do they share details about how they survived. Just knowing that they understand is comforting to us.
My listeners can't solve my problems for me. But they do show how they used the tools that are available in the Program to work through the same kinds of problems.
When you do all the talking you only learn what you already know. --Anonymous
*smiling* I apply a similar concept when communicating with my HP.
I have 2 ways of speaking with my HP (apart from the fact I chat to Him constantly throughout the day) ........I speak to Him some nights and tell Him what I am fed up about etc....I have a good old moan(as in WHERE ARE YOU HP ???!!!)....and also tell Him how I'm feeling....which is pretty pointless since He already knows......but He is patient and tolerant towards me.....haven't heard Him sigh yet.....and am not aware He has bought earplugs!!!
But every night I hold people in my prayers who I am praying for God's will for and then I quietly listen and absorb my HP. That is when I feel peace ......... when I am quiet and listening.
This is totally irrelevant to this post but my lovely rescue cat sat on my lap for the FIRST time ever last night. I have always hoped that one day she may do that but not really had any expectations as she was a very damaged little soul. Anyway, I have been through a tough patch lately - just life stuff- and I think my HP told her ....this is the time.......it was BEAUTIFUL !!!!!! Beautiful !! Thank you HP !!!
Larry, Thank you for the reminder today. I tend to talk to much and think of what I'm going to say next while someone else is talking- thus not listening. It's good for me to be reminded that I have to listen; to learn and grow.
Louisa,
Good stuff. You have a HP working in your life. Nice to see.
I tend to talk to much and think of what I'm going to say next while someone else is talking- thus not listening. It's good for me to be reminded that I have to listen; to learn and grow.