I was talking to my daughter this evening around the dinner table. She bought me a cake to celebrate my 22nd AA anniversary. I have always been there for my children, drunk or sober. She is now in a relationship and her boyfriend is extremely jealous of her. No communication with other boys. As we talked for over an hour, I started to tell her that jealousy is one of the 7 deadly sins. I asked her to reconsider this relationship and pray about it. God's will for us is to be happy, joyous and free. If something or someone disturbs this it cannot be from God. Many times in my life I kept knocking my head trying to find out what is God's will, and I found that God's will was in the natural with a set of parameters that He gives us to not go astray. I found those parameters carefully tabled in the 12 steps of AA. They have worked for me and now I can guide my children also with those very same principles.
That's a great gift that you gave your daughter. Possessiveness and jealousy aren't signs of love, but a lot of young people have the "romantic" idea that it is.
I worked a long time in the field of domestic violence, and rules like "no communication with other guys" is a huge red flag. I hope she listens to her dad.
How I came to understand the will of my HP was from inside and outside the program. When I got into recovery the fellowship had me first stop running, turn around and then was face to face with God. Next they taught me to include God in every thought, feeling, action and expression especially with other recovering members who were helping me and whom I was helping also. After about 10 years during a thoughtful meditation I arrived at the early God's will statment again and it all fell in place and I have never had to question it since. "Love God with your whole, heart, mind and spirit and your neighbor as yourself." God's will for me is very simple now.
Good thread Gonee and like Lexie I was also a ATV case worker...best thing for her boy friend maybe a sharing or two heart to heart with another man who understands his fear and how to get rid of it.
That's a great gift that you gave your daughter. Possessiveness and jealousy aren't signs of love, but a lot of young people have the "romantic" idea that it is.
I worked a long time in the field of domestic violence, and rules like "no communication with other guys" is a huge red flag. I hope she listens to her dad.
Thanks Lexie. I needed to hear from someone like you with experience.
