As your Sponsor... I will not help you to stay and wallow in limbo. I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to become the authority for your own living. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up" simply because I cannot. I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow for yourself by facing reality, grim as it may be at times. I cannot take away your loneliness or your pain. I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals for you, tell you what is best for your world; because you have your own world in which you must live. I cannot convince you of the necessity to make the vital decision of choosing the frightening uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of remaining static. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow. When I begin to care for you out of pity or when I begin to lose faith in you, then I am inhibiting both for you and for me. You must know and understand my help is conditional. I will be with you and "hang in there" with you so long as I continue to get even the slightest hint that you are still trying to grow. If you can accept this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be, mature adults, leaving childishness forever to the little children of the world.
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Progress not perfection.. & Practice makes Progress!
I was told once that a good sponsor comforts the disturbed and disturbs the comfortable. My sponsor is a master of this. In the early years when I was having problems he helped me work through them when I was doing good and thought I had the world at my feet he pointed out what I need to work on. He didn't always make me happy but he helped me change my life and become who I am today.
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Tell me and I'll forget. Teach me and I'll remember. Involve me and I'll learn.
Thanks Daniella. Good things for me to remember while I work through some sponsee issues.
Brian
Here's one for ya' Brian... How does a Sponsor equipped with an AMD Celeron take on a Sponsee equipped with an Intel Pentium IV? Funny analogy perhaps but those 12 bullets aren't enough to slow that kid down, yeah the force is strong with him.
I will not help you to stay and wallow in limbo.