Whining is a great deal of self-pity pushed through a small hole.--Anonymous

"Even whiners recoil from the sound of whining. But although it makes people cover their ears and leave the room, whining is more of a symptom than a cause. People whine because they sense they have no power, no choices, and consequently, no responsibility. Whining is the sound of victimhood.

People with adequate self-esteem don't whine. They might very well acknowledge a problem or pain--but then they take appropriate steps to remedy the situation. 'Whiners stop short of action. They just sit in their pain and make a noise about it, like coyotes baying at the moon.

Heaven knows all of us have sadnesses to bay about. But we don't have enough time for griping and compliaining once we take respsonsiblity for our lives. We're too busy working on the attitudes and behaviours that set up our ill fortune in the first place. We're not sitting now, we're moving and doing. The last thing we want to hear is the sniveling sound made when self-pity is pushed through a small hole."~BIM

(that small hole being my mouth). For me, self pity is like a pebble on the top of a snowy mountaintop. It begins to roll, picks up speed, and ends up an avalanche. Today, I began with my lip stuck out because nobody called me from Cali to let me know how my Gram was. It went from there to "if they really loved me", and on to, "why hasnt my son called since he got back from his camping trip?" NOBODY LOVES ME. I need some chocolate. Right after the worms.....    hugs, chris