I had "plans" for the evening. I was to go to my home group and chair, and then go up to Cleveland to see a very dear friend and his wife play at a concert venue. He even came by and dropped off free tickets. I was really excited.
I had asked a ton of my AA friends to go with me, but they all either had plans, or had to stay home with the kids, etc.... so a friend of mine, a "safe, platonic" friend in AA I have known for years, and who has about 8 years sobriety, said he would love to go (he too loves music). I have seen this friend at lots of meetings lately, and he has given nothing but the safest and best of vibes.
Until tonight. I was at my homegroup, opening up by myself and making the coffee. He started texting me some flirtatious material.... ok, well, I can handle that. But this guy went WWWAAAYYYY.... waaaAAAAAYYYYYYYYY beyond what is "appropriate", even for me, as I have many friends and am not TOTALLY "naive" nor blind to the fact that I am an attractive young woman. I was sooooo ticked off, and just about then, my best friend and fellow home group member pulls up and I let her in on what is going on. She says to me,
"Tell HIM that he is totally INAPPROPRIATE!!!! Shut that Sh**T down NOW!!!"So I did just that. I was fumed. I told him via text that I was nOT going up there tonight, period. End of discussion. He said "Okay then." grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
So, although I was disappointed, and had looked forward to seeing my dear friends perform, ther was no way in HELL I was going to go by myself. Nope. There IS a bar in this place, and though it is not a "focal point" of the venue, I have no business going to a place like that alone.
After the meeting, a friend in AA who is here studying from Austria and was there with her boyfriend invited me to come with them downtown (Akron) and see an Elton John immitator perform. Not my favorite artist of all time, but I said "what the hell, sure. I will go"
I am so glad I did. The man was phenomenal, with a full show, and he played the piano like a Maestro, and sounded amazing. The company I was with was even better. My Austrian friend talked all evening about our cultures and so forth. She is working toward her doctorate in Sociology here, and I am working on my Psych degree. We enjoyed our time together sooooo much. I am just so happy that I made the choices that I did. I could have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself, or drunk by now. But instead, I am feeling very satisfied, and content, and happy.
Thank you, AA.
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Good for you!!!! I must say you are surely gaining strength not only to keep your sobriety, but to stand up for yourself in other non related situations. You goooooo girl! Don't think I'd want to go up against you. lol Additionally....you just gave me a needed booster shot (encouragement) to keep fighting for certain beliefs in certain areas of my life. thank you!
man that angry head in your share is scary lol. Glad everything worked out the way it was supposed to. Good thing the guy forecasted his intentions before you went out with him. You can be grateful for that.
Glad everything worked out theway it was supposed to.~ Dean
And that statement from Dean pretty well sums it up. When things aren't looking quite the way WE plan, our Higher Power steps in and will institute the plan that is best for us, when we let go of control and turn it on over. How cool is that? I'm so glad things went the way they did, Joni. Probably saved you from a couple of awkward moments, yeah? love chris
Hmmm, strange that you have known the guy for years and considered him a safe and platonic friend and he suddendly starts acting in a way that is inappropriate.
I smell a resentment and have to wonder how you will deal with him the next time you have to be f2f with him. Sad that you allowed him to make a decision for you that you would miss a dear friends concert that you had planned to attend and were looking so forward to going to.
Not everybody thinks before they act. Not everybody in AA is well , all the time. Including myself
Hi happycamper, yes, it was and is a little bit of a shocker. But I think perhaps my status now as getting "divorced" and being single, even though I am not at all interested in dating anyone, may have changed the way this young man thinks he can approach me.
I am not going to beat him up over it. I will however do my best to just "leave it alone" now. I could not go to the concert alone for recovery reasons, and that is the crux of the matter, but they will play again I am sure. There is always tomorrow, right?
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