Hmmm... let's see..... I would have to say sweetness, care, generosity, and humility. Tough ones!! And ones that I try (and fail at often) to live up to myself. But seem people are "naturals"... I really like and admire people like this...
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
I am always amazed at people who can see the positive in everyone, who steadfastly refuse to say negative things about others, or who will point out the difficulties that person is probably going through if someone else criticizes them. People who rarely complain if ever. People who are almost always smiling.
-- Edited by FlyingSquirrel on Thursday 22nd of July 2010 03:20:44 PM
I like what Flying Squirrel said. I work with a guy like that--- we have an older woman ( yes, even older than me) who hasn't a nice thing to say about any of the newer, younger members, and this young man can find the good in everything and everyone, yet he can't see how remarkable he himself is. I'd say he's humble, but I wouldnt recognize that.....
A sense of humor and the ability to laugh at oneself always attracts me to people. Except for that particular thing, if I'm going to be honest, I'll have to say I'm attracted to people who mirror what I WISH I were like-- non-judgemental, spiritual in the quiet sense, gentleness. Loving. I like being around loving people. Loving people encompass such a large variety of positive personality traits. I need to be around people that are loving so that I can learn to love better.
I like accepting people especially those who don't automatically get turned off by those who are different than themselves. Tolerance, kind, humble, easy to laugh types...stuff I like to practice myself.
I love corn-balls, people who break the ice and help us and others to feel comfortable in their presence, and make us laugh... and there are plenty of corny wonderful folk here, I might add!!
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
Wow. Loaded one. Sometimes I admire qualities that I admire and wish to aquire. Sometimes it's greater degrees of something I have and aish to grow more of.
But wait...that's about ME...not them.
In others I admire leadership ability; grace-under-pressure. In others I admire courage. In others I enjoy naivity because their innocence is amusing. In others I enjoy arrogance because it's futility also amuses me.
People that never make critical judgements of others, completely non-judgemental....seeking to see the beauty in anyone that at first you might want to first think otherwise.
But somehow I believe that kindness covers all of these thing, a warm compassionate heart is also in that inherit kindness that is by far my farovite.
Thanks for all your imput, looks like Alcoholic's in Recovery, seen to gravitate to the same gentle souls.
Toodles, Toni
PS. One of our former Moderators entered one day a Post on Kindness, Phil was the person, it was such a lovely Post, (poem) I think I will see if I can retrieve it... be right back
Kindness
Poet Naomi Shihab Nye in her poem "Kindness" writes:
Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things, feel the future dissolve in a moment like salt in a weakened broth. What you held in your hand, what you counted and carefully saved, all this must go so you know how desolate the landscape can be between the regions of kindness ...
Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness, you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho lies dead by the side of the road. You must see how this could be you, how he too was someone who journeyed through the night with plans and the simple breath that kept him alive.
Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside, You must know sorrow as the other deepest thing. You must wake up with sorrow. You must speak to it till your voice catches the thread of all sorrows and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore, only kindness that ties your shoes and sends you out into the day to mail letters and purchase bread, only kindness that raises its head from the crowd of the world to say It is I you have been looking for, and then goes with you everywhere Like a shadow or a friend.
"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another
Thank You Phil, Hope you all enjoy, it is pretty heavy, but very beautiful to me.
Toni
-- Edited by Just Toni on Saturday 24th of July 2010 12:52:40 PM
Qualities i admire in others are the qualities i want in my life, too. Calmness (grace under fire) honesty quick to smile and laugh really seeing someone, not just looking at them that unconditional love true peace that comes from a conscious contact with God ability to listen with the heart and to believe the best is yet to come jj
-- Edited by jj on Saturday 24th of July 2010 02:58:32 PM
