Just thought I'd drop and maybe share a little, don't get me wrong I'm quite content with where I'm at in sobriety and love my children very much so.
Daughter is off on her first real job she worked so hard to get on her own, and loves being at camp this year she gets paid for doing what she loves and I'm so proud of her. For what she's overcome and where's she's going.
My son is doing well, but could do alot better. He's overcome obstacles of his own and proud of him as well. Just rite now, I'm trying to keep it simple but keep a firm grasp on my self.
My son has Bypolar and well, yes he's been off of Meth for 3years or so now, and hasn't been able to afford his meds for the bypolar. Somewhere along the line has picked up on Drinking.
And needless to say, we've butted heads. So I finally told em, that if he couldn't handle just 6 beers and stop at that. Then he needed to quite, told him that I couldn't do it no more. The last thing I want to do is to wash my hands of him, Yes I know what will be said. That may be the answer, and trust Me I haven't bought his alcohol for him.
Than again we as alcoholics manage to find a way to get our alcohol, Anyways My sons going to see the doctor on the 17th of August to get some medication for his By POLAR and in the mean time. We'll see what happens.........
anyways was just getting some stuff off my chest thanks for listening.
Have you tried any Al-Anon meetings? I found them very helpful for managing my own feelings about someone else's drinking. Whether he lives under your roof or whether you eventually have to let him go out on his own, it's still scary and upsetting and easy to get yourself all wrapped up in it.
Hi Tina, thanks for sharing..I can definitely identify with your situation. I not only work daily on my own recovery but have a 24,year old son,Heroin addict ,in recovery since december 2010.I am also an active member of Naranon(no implied endorsement)(similar to Al-Anon ,little more focus on substance abuse other than alcohol)It has been an immense help for me learning tools of how to work with co-dependence issues that we as parents get caught up in.I also suggest a program of such above mentioned to help you learn to "detach with love' keep your recovery first and foremost and to stay close with the God of your understanding, I will pray things get straightened out with your sons meds as that is very important for him also to remain focused for his recovery.My son in and out of psych units since 12,ocd,manic depression.ahdd,anxiety disorder,anti-social personality disorder,and every med they got to go with it....When he took meds "how they were prescribed" he did well,when he didnt "self medication,,DOC --heroin!!Not to frighten you,but to let you know Im in support and will lift you up to God for your continued strength and serenity as you go forward...peace...let us know how its going.....
__________________
Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Thanks for the insight and mike I agree with you with the co-dependence issues that we as parents get caught up in, I have learned to "detach with love" although that maybe hard sometimes but I'm keeping my recovery first.
I do have connections and very close to a few ppl in my area that are in Al-Anon, that I do confide in. Also has help me stay close to my HP, I've been through alot and well God only puts what you can handle in your lap rite One day at a time.
So I'm hanging in there, and well again hope you have a safe and sober day!! I'll let you know how things are going. By the way my son had a ECG/EKG that involves wires hooked up to the top of the head and that came back normal. But the psych has to look at it, he's got an appointment coming up next month.
I've put my son in God's hands to take care of him.
