One of the many reasons I drank liquor was because I could not get rid of the past. Today I have resolved that through the steps of recovery in AA. It was not easy. A price had to be paid. My actions of my past were mostly under the influence of alcohol. Those actions were committed by a sick individual who was suffering from a serious illness which was beyond my control. I found that only other alcoholics like myself understood that, and that is why I took my 5th step with my AA sponsor. He resolved for me in a few hours what many professionals could not do. My AA sponsors diagnosis was spot on:"You were sickened by a chemical called alcohol." Now he told me not to mope about the past and feel sorry for myself, because I will get drunk. I made a list and began reparations. Some things were quiet badly damaged and I very nearly got drunk repairing them, but I always remembered that I was a sick person, not a bad person. I also caused some harms after I got sober, and my wife would remind me of them: "See how you behave sober in AA." I never got upset with this. I simply found that more work needed to be done. "Do not be discouraged."pg 60 AA book.
This step is part of the genius of this program. I still cringe when I think of the past, but I have made ammends to the best of my ability and I continue to evaluate my actions. This action makes you a new person when coupled with sobriety.
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"You're in the right place. That's the door right there. Turn around."
Cringeing about the past -- yep, that's me. I know now that my often horrible and embarassing past should not be hidden away somewhere, much as I wish it could sometimes, as every little bit of it might just be able to help another alcoholic to stay with AA, to say "yeah, I did that" or "this guy understands".
The past makes us who we are today.....every decision good or bad are added up to make us who we are. Drunk decisions are diseased decisions. Insanity to be sure. Sober decisions are possible through this program, step-by-step, day by day, at times, minute by minute!! It's nice to be present in my life and not have to cringe about things that were done in the practice of my disease. It's a new life and it begins every day in AA!!
Blessed that I remember it and cursed because it feels like it happened yesterday.
In a way I am glad it is very fresh in my mind, I can accept it and don't dwell on it, but it is a constant reminder that "Yes Dave, you are an alcoholic."
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"A busy mind is a sick mind. A slow mind, is a healthy mind. A still mind, is a divine mind." - Native American Centerness