July 17    My stabiliy came out of trying to give, not out of demanding that I receive.

Thus I think it can work out with emontional sobriety. If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love: we may be able to Twelve Step ourselves and others into emotional sobriety.     The Language Of The Heart  p. 238

Years of dependency on alcohol as a chemical mood-changer deprived me of the capability to interact emotionally with my fellows. I thought I had to be self-sufficient, self-reliant, anf self-motivated in a world of unreliable people. Finally I lost my self-respect and was left with dependancy, lacking any ability to trust myself or to believe in anything. Surrender and self-examination while sharing while sharing with newcomers helped me to ask humbly for help.   Daily Reflections p.207