Well, it's day 15 of sobriety. And I feel awesome!! Had a decent day at work, made an afternoon meeting, and think I got myself a sponsor (we're having lunch next week). BUT, there's one thing that's bothering me, my boyfriend! I mentioned him in one of my first posts, and got some sound advice from Wagon who told me I wouldn't be lieing if I didn't tell him I'm an alcoholic, "be mysterious" is what he said.. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now, and he's seen me drink twice and it was only a couple beers. I was "lucky" before starting recovery because the places we went were family restaurants or daytime outings so no problem. I really like this guy, he's one of the good ones, he doesn't drink at all, he's not an alcoholic/addict, wife beater, he has a 25 yr career, he's stable, and sweet, a real gentleman, and dang!! he is easy on the eyes. I know AA suggests not starting a new relationship the first yr of recovery, but this one was started before I decided to get sober! He's crazy about me, he told me so last night. Our relationship has not become a physical one yet...... Do I tell him now? or wait a little longer or what??? I believe if this is going to continue to move forward he needs to know soon because I'm really not being honest anymore or fair to him. He knows how I feel about him and I think he could just be my Mr. Right....... so, ya'll get busy and help me out here...... "op"
If your partner is the right one, go for it, good luck annd best wishes, just be honest, it's the best plan. never lie and love with all you have.
my prayers are with you
Chris.
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"Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids, we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -- Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989"
Thanks all for the great Insight. I sent him email before I chickened out, he's at work, and told him there was something I needed to discuss with him when I see him tomorrow..... Now, HOW shall I start this conversation?? !!
Hey "op", Chris and Phil are great guys, you can trust their advice. The only thing I would suggest, is to pray before you talk to your boyfriend. Your Higher Power will give you the right words.You are in my prayers...
