Without understanding our motives, we can easily lapse into behavior aimed at manipulating others. Sulking is a means of letting others know we are displeased and forcing them to attempt to win our approval. Flattery is a false expression of approval that we don't really feel. Giving others good strokes for our own purpose. Withholding deserved praise is a means of putting others down, something we're likely to do because of our jealousy.
Manipulative behavior is almost always selfish behavior. IT is usually a false means of trying to get our own way. It is certainly an immature way of dealing with people and situations.
The best way to avoid being manipulative is to be ourselves at all times. We have neither the right nor the responsibility to control or regulate other people. Our best approach, in trying to influence others' actions, is simply to state our own case with sincerity and honest. Others must be free to act, free to choose, and free to make their own decisions without manipulative interference on our part.
I will be myself at all times today. I will not assume false roles simply for the purpose of bending others to my own will. Manipulative behavior is controlling behavior, which I must avoid.
The door to the human heart can only be opened from the INSIDE.
When am I manipulative? Today, tomorrow, forever... to some degree. But I can work on it, right? I can give it to God, as a character defect, to remove fragments of, over time. But I had better not have any big expectations (self-manipulations) about this one!
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
I learned just yesterday that my selfishness & self-centredness is triggered when I'm afraid I may not get my own way. Even just the fear of not 'getting my own way' can incite it. Thank God I can learn the folly of myself & Thank God He loves me & can change me if I let Him. Everyone else is His business too. Thanks, Larry. Danielle x
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Progress not perfection.. & Practice makes Progress!
