Of course being likeminded here Rob, I did ponder this one. My thought is this philosophy could be used to combat fear of change. Perhaps I have tried something and failed at it before. I might convince myself..."Oh I can't do that, I already failed at it." Fact is, it isn't the same and every time I try it again (if it's something really good and worth doing) it is different and the result could be different.
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Of course being likeminded here Rob, I did ponder this one. My thought is this philosophy could be used to combat fear of change. Perhaps I have tried something and failed at it before. I might convince myself..."Oh I can't do that, I already failed at it." Fact is, it isn't the same and every time I try it again (if it's something really good and worth doing) it is different and the result could be different.
Great insight, like it!
That said, there is one thing that I will fail at for the rest of my life here on earth, no matter how many times I try and that is to have just one drink. ;)
I thought about that one too steve...and it kinda works there too. Each time I drink it's not the same for me because I am an alcoholic. Each time I drink it's not just a buzz...it's different because the disease is progressive and I would be moving further and further in a bad direction (possibly lethal).
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Thanks, Rob. I needed to hear something worth pondering in recovery, tonight. I am in a panic and it is ok, becuase it is not MY will, it is God's will. I want sooo badly for some personal things to work out, I always have, but sometimes my expectatios have not been met, and in fact, have been dashed along with hopes and dreams. I hope that things are different right now, and not what I suspect is happening (imagination or intuition?), but whatever happens, I have NO CONTROL OVER IT!!! I HAVE TO SAY THAT TO MYSELF TIME AND TIME AGAIN. I AM NOT IN CONTROL OF OTHER HUMAN BEINGS, PERIOD. AND THEIR BEHAVIOR DOES NOT REFLECT MY INTRINSIC WORTH~!!!!!!!!!!!
I am off to college again soon, yes, I just finished school 2 years ago thanks to AA, but I am going back to yet again, online this time, broaden my horizons. I just want to be able to take care of myself the way I WANT to, if anything in my home life should change. It is a need and a desire I have to continue getting educated, and to continue to do some things in recovery that are worth holding on to, worth doing, and that show me I am a bright and good person, when those tapes of the past try to start rolling again and tell me I am otherwise.
So...... Good to hear this new saying tonight, about the river. It is so true for me. I don't know if I have been stepping in water necessarily, feels more like stepping in shit at times, but if it is shit in a river, then true, I am not stepping in the same shit every season... it gets washed away...... and so will the next pile of shit, right? ;o)
Love and hugs, Joni
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I AM NOT IN CONTROL OF OTHER HUMAN BEINGS, PERIOD. AND THEIR BEHAVIOR DOES NOT REFLECT MY INTRINSIC WORTH~!!!!!!!!!!!
Glad to have you back around, Joni! Missed ya! What you said above...so, so, so true. I'm trying to balance that principle with "when someone upsets me, it's me who has the problem" I.E., it is my PERCEPTION of their actions which is upsetting me...not thier actions, as We cannot afford to nurture resentment.
That doesn't mean that I have to eat shit every time someone takes a dump on me...it just means that I have to pretend that it's cotton candy!
Peace, Sister and props on gettin' edumacated. I is still just a couple of books past ignorant...on paper, anyway.
I heard a similar expression in a meeting last night-"It is none of my business what others think of me, nor is ever my business what others think." We do not have to bow down and eat dirt but must understand that we cannot control others. Acceptance was the key word I walked with.
That's like you can't go to the same place twice because the location of space that our planet, solar system, and galaxy, is in, at any particular time, is always changing and will never be the same twice. Every moment in time is unique and should be enjoyed as such.
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Sunday 21st of February 2010 10:47:27 AM
You can never step in the same river twice.
