At the moment, I am going through a lot of changes. Today I became very angry over a situation which involved a work project and a gossip. I have decided to disengage from working with this person until I am sure of what can be achieved. I am ok now about it, and it feels good to vent. I have sent a pleasant but honest email saying that I am not prepared to schedule meetings until I have certain documentation in order. It feels good to be acting in a rational suitable manner and to let go and let God. I used to always try and win in those situations and often failed to confront genuine issues which meant I turned to drink to make myself feel better. That is not the case today. Best wishes to all.
Work can be a huge stressor. I can attest to that. Relationships with "normies" can be difficult, espicially at work and at home. What I have found is to pick up a drink will just make things worse. And worse is putting it mildly. Thanks for posting. Peace.........
Sounds like you are changing what you can, and letting the rest go. Mature Action usually makes us feel better about a situation.
We can't change everything in the world around us, just our reaction to the things that happen.
This is not one of the promises, but I personally do believe the people around us many times change in their interaction with us after we are sober for a while.
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Good for you! I remember you saying that work was a big hurdle & trigger for you. Glad to see that you've relinquished the urge to control the situation. Thanks for keeping me sober today.
Well done. Living the steps and the trads at work is so helpful.
I've had a situation over a process document I've written. A small problem over a name of a sub process. My previous boss was insisting that we kept the original name, our collaborator wanted a different name. Deadlock for 3 months. I get a new boss and asked him is this a battle worth fighting or do we agree to this minor change. What do you think asks he. Let's go with their suggestion says I. OK says he.
So I write to the other guy and say Yep, sounds like a good idea, we'll go with your change. Boy were they surprised!
later that day I had to 'dig my heels in' over a much more important matter ( a long term quality issue.) The response I got from the collaborator was amazing. Yes, you're right, we'll get this sorted. Can you arrange to meet onsite and explain exactly what is required? Then I'll order it done that way.
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For me, I used to get wrapped up in every work conflict and drama. I used to hit the liqour store and drink on the way home in my car cuz I was so convinced my life and job was that stressful. I used to then call my 1 friend from work and bitch about work while drunk. It never occurred to me that drinking was actually the cause of much of that stress and inability to cope. I indentify with your post Lorna. I have gone through some of the same changes. I'm really happy to see your program in action :)
Mark
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Rob shared, "Mature Action usually makes us feel better about a situation."
Oh God! The times I have acted impulsively and childishly and have made a situation a million times worse......lost count.
Thanks to this program - don't think I've done it in ages........but My God , I would make any situation so much worse by behaving in an impulsive, explosive rather than mature, thoughtful manner.....then of course I would just wallow afterwards as to how everyone was out to get me...........yawn!
Nowadays I try to always take a step back and Think ,Think, Think ! I try to do what I think is appropriate and leave the rest to God. Mind I do have to confess I sometimes find it ALOT easier to apply the "Think" slogan outside the home than in it .......Oops!
Sounds like at least TWO of the promises are happening for you - 'We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us' and 'Our whole attitude on life will change'
Don'tya just love it when a plan comes together???
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Yeah, and it is SO very satisfying when those blessings of "intuitively knowing" and the"changed outlook" really do meld together...it astonishes me every time...gotta be God doing for me, 'cuz no way do I have enuf sense to act right on my own!! I find this very timely, regarding work. Also always good to hear from others...we really are never alone anymore, and not at all unique! It's all about the WE.
-- Edited by leeu on Thursday 4th of February 2010 06:09:35 PM
