replacing alcohol with other obsessive behaviors keeping secrets from my spouse thinking i could stop drinking on my own if i just tried hard enough internet shopping on ebay like a fiend drinking odouls like an alcoholic drinks beer isolating so i wouldn't have to talk about my failures or problems put on a happy face around others pretending all was fine
all of the above plus: portion Control - only one glass - get bigger glasses - only one bottle - get bigger bottles only drinking spirits with ice never drinking spirits with ice (freeze the vodka bottle instead) not drinking on an empty stomach keeping 24 hours between bottle and throttle - oh sod it 12 hours'll do, well ok 6 hours at a pinch not being truthful and lot's of other stuff
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It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you got. BB
-only on weekends -switching to beer -only using illegal drugs -waiting till evening -going to detox facilities -staying with parents -going to meetings -swearing off "brown liquor" -substituting with sex -substituting with exercise
Hello, couldn't resist this one.......more about alcoholism....
Here are some of the methods we have tried: Drinking beer only, limiting the number of drinks, never drinking alone, never drinking in the morning, drinking only at home, never having it in the house, never drinking during business hours, drinking only at parties, switching from scotch to brandy, drinking only natural wines, agreeing to resign if ever drunk on the job, taking a trip, not taking a trip, swearing off forever (with and without a solemn oath), taking more physical exercise, reading inspirational books, going to health farms and sanitariums, accepting voluntary commitment to asylums we could increase the list ad infinitum.
I shall add one of my own, Taking my will back and thinking things will go well!!!!
I did pretty much so everything listed in all the posts here. Except ... drinking non-alcoholic beer or drinks. I remember that those non-alcoholic drinks are for non-alcoholics .
I love dodworths "using only illegal drugs" - lol! this is a fun post, I can relate to many of these. Also what didn't work for me: meetings without a big book or sponsor!
1. Denial was a poor stategy for me. Was good at rationalizing an evening of significant excess by progressively lowering the bar on outcome, "Well, that wasn't so bad , at least I didn't do X."
2. Counting drinks was silly, because I could always pretend that a huge glass of wine was "only one". I actually halfway believed that nonsense.
3. Convincing myself that I drank like a normal person because I would limit myself to just one in a business setting. After that wrapped up I could then go out and celebrate my discipline by getting trashed away from colleagues.
The human capacity for self-deception is extraordinary on so many levels. The way I approached cigarettes should have been a clue. I never understood social smokers. I was a pack and a half per day guy until I quit cold turkey. Alcohol ultimately evolved into a similar thing for me. At some point I crossed a boundary and went from that social drinker to someone engaged in the games outlined above. As an alcoholic, any strategy other than abstinance simply is not possile for me.
I bought a portable breathalyzer and tried to keep myself at a constant .08 or less throughout the night. It was the same as any other method of control, when I controlled my drinking I couldn't enjoy it and when I enjoyed my drinking I couldn't control it.