I just wanted to share my apprehension about the Fair tomorrow. Every year I go, the big treat for Myself is Beer and CornDogs(yes those fattening corn dogs)....anyway, I have already been thinking for the last couple of days about how I will have cold water instead of cold beer. I am going to carry my Chip with Me which was given to Me last night at my first AA meeting. I am not going to ask my husband not to have a cold beer...he doesnt have the disease. So, I will pray before I go. I will also let you all know how I am feeling before I go, plus afterwards.
Surround yourself with Higher Power Angie...Stay away from dangerous places. As it has often been said in meetings I have attended in the past 30+ years. "If you hang around the barber shop, sooner or later you're gonna get clipped."
Hey Angie, Hang in there. One day at a time. I actually found that caffine helped me stay away from the booze if that thought helps any. Cokes or coffee seem to throw some familiar tastes into the mix. Good Luck! Tom
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Hi Angie, you might want to consider not going if you feel apprehensive about it. We really want to avoid the people places and things that we drank in, around, with, and over. This isn't a contest of wills and trying to prove our sobriety. Relapses come fast and especially in familiar circumstances with people that we drank with. Be careful.
Angie, I'm a newbie too; 93 days sober. FIRST THINGS FIRST. Nothing is more important than YOUR sobriety. If you have to skip the fair to avoid a slippery place, then so be it.
I understand what most of you are saying....however, I really cannot stay away from the fair because we are taking our children....Hunter and Luke....so, I feel like since this is My issue-my problem, they should not pay the price for it...anymore than they already have in the last 6 months where I have not been able to attend MANY events because of my hangover and or need to stay at home where the beer, vodka and wine were my best friends...
I will be ok, my husband has been so supportive this week and He sees a HUGE difference JUST in the last few days.....He keeps telling me how proud he is and I was not sure how he would react to all of this since he does not believe in Addiction....
For My journey, I do not intend to "avoid" places where alcohol is served...if I did that, then I would be at home and never leave because these days alcohol is EVERYWHERE it seems. I also do not intend on "avoiding" family or friends who drink and are not alcoholics. I believe AA will give me the strength and self will to remain sober. I have no intentions of missing out on anymore Life than I already have. I realize my journey is brand new, but I cannot expect my closest family and friends to change because of my idiotic mistakes...
Thanks though for the words, I really appreciate it so very much!
Its all good angie. Just remember, if you feel uncomfortable, you can leave. It's that simple. The answer is not to avoid ALL places that serve alcohol, mainly it's bars, the liquor store, the beer and wine isle at the grocery store, friends houses you used to drink at and with, and not to have alcohol in the house for quite some time... Yeah, you can't and shouldn't avoid going out to eat at restaurants and such. On day 30 for me, I recall it was Halloween and I did go to a street festival with AA friends. It was like walking through a field of drunkenness with my own little sobriety forcefield around me because of the AA friends looking out for me. I actually went off to find somebody to say hello at one point and strayed away from them and they were frantic looking for me worrying that I was drinking. Amazing that people cared that much after just 30 days...and that I had new friends to spend my first sober holiday with. You will be fine. Did you get any phone numbers at the meeting you went to? A few people will just walk up and give you theirs but it's good to ask for some to. Preferably a woman if you think it might be someone that could turn into a sponsor (I know their weren't hardly any at the one meeting you went to). My suggestion in the way of a sponsor/most important contacts to you would be a woman with a family/kids or one that got sober while her kids were young like you. She will know exactly how you feel in ways that not all of us here do....though we all do share a serious bond which brings us together.
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It was months before I could feel safe at a wet place and then not consistently. I tell you what though, take that one day chip with you, when you get teh urge for a cold beer, pop the chip in your mouth. When it dissolves, you can have a beer!!
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Well if you are going to go, I think Bikerbill has the perfect solution, if the craving comes up, put that 24 Chip in mouth and when it desolves, then....Reach for that spun Cotton candy, I love that stuff.
Well I did not have to repeat it word for word, but thought it was a perfect way to get through any craving......wish someone had told me how to do that...many years ago.
Your family, you husband, sounds very supportive, and that is so fabulous. Hope you have a great great day!
Hugs, Toni
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I tried hangin sober in my first 30 days with dinner friends where I would usually drink (a lot). They did, I didn't and it sucked hard at the end of the night. I have been cautious since.
That said, I am now about 4 months sober and I have been watching football sober for the first time. Wow, it's been fun, and I watch the game all the way through and remember it. Didn't originally think sobriety would be fun, so glad it is! A million pluses anyway you add it up.
Good wishes, do what you need to do for yourself and your health,
Angela-longtime corndog lover
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