Have made a formal request my boat building cohorts to formally recognise my role if possible due to difficulties with contracts with my soon to be ex- employer. I hav.e looked for one day a week as this will give me a chance to be of use but also to concentrate on my sobriety. I have also told them if this is not possible I am happy to continue working on the project in the voluntary capacity I hold at present.
Thanks for all your advice, support and help as I think without it, I would have become very derailed and focused on all the wrong this, especially those who suggested choosing my battles carefully, my emphasis has to be on my sobriety and avoiding the stress involved in taking that first drink, so am turning it over day by day and lessening the anxiety as a result.
The union lady was fantastic and will help me find out what rights I have if any within the institution. We both feel that I do not have many rights due to the type of work undertaken and time scales involved at times, but I think its great that she has faith enough to want to support me in going to the meeting with HR and now I am letting my HP take over, its just so great to be able to make sober decisions, yes they might not be perfect, but they are calm, collected and negotiable, unlike some I have made in the past, the decisions around this issue in the past would have involved in me ranting, roaring, over reacting, annoying everyone even remotely involved and just thinking with blinkers instead of thinking, and that would be just my behaviour at work, at home, my poor son would have had to live with a nightmare and would have borne the brunt of the temper tantrums. I have had a great seven years there, enjoyed working with some colleagues and would like to maintain all those positive links, so here's hoping.
Sounds good NC, but I'll bet that this will look different to you in a few month/year. Unless some serious abuse or swindling is going on, I'd keep it low key till you have a year sober. It's suggested to not make any serious decisions or changes (move, change jobs, make expensive purchases, get in relationships....) because our thinking is all mixed up in the first year (or 3). I'd also make sure that what ever these discrepencies are, that it does not affect the quality or quantity of your work or your professionalism. If you'll be negotiating at some point, then you want your employer to really want/need your services. It's good to have job right now, be grateful.
The only major changes worth making in the first year are if they are things that literally are incompatible to you staying sober....for me, that was having a partner that was also an alcoholic and that had to end for me to even have a shot at this. Other than that, I just ride out what comes my way for the most part and try and stay even keel. I used to get irritated when people said "wait a year until" and I didn't wait a year to date and start a new relationship...Thankfully for me, it didn't trigger me drinking again. I knew I wouldn't follow that one and did what the big book said about things I wasn't ready to change yet (things about me, not my situation). I prayed for willingness. Other than that, no major changes.
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Yes, not looking for any, have been in contact with HR, any problems in related to my contracts are not emanating from them, so I'm have done what I can now, am turning all over,
