Dear all, am going through a difficult time right now with work related issues which is threatening my serenity a lot, please send on prayers, am attending meetings which are great and are helping me get through, have got a sponsor but haven't started work with her yet, am calm about that though, I have allowed myself to be exploited but have to stand my ground now, I find it hard but am just going to have get through this no matter the outcome, I am handing it over to HP as we speak, and trying to remember that since I got sober I do not regret my decisions,
Newcomer, Good to hear from you. By expressing your issues here you've taken some of the power away from them. I'm reminded here of a familiar quote but it holds a lot of weight:
Don't drink, go to meetings and ask for help- let god sort out the details.
Newcomer, remember "Easy Does It" and "One Day At A Time". Don't try to fight all your battles at the same time. Pick your battles and your battle fields. It's not worth pushing yourself right out of your sobriety. If you lose your sobriety, you lose all. Always put your sobriety first and think about if whatever you are planning on doing might put your sobriety in jeopardy.
This situation you find yourself in, was almost identical to my leaving an old job.
I was talking about leaving that job, and was expressing my anger at my boss, after a meeting. I was tell her what I planned to write in the letter of resignation.
She asked me to pause, and think about doing the following. She recommended that I first sit down and right a letter to him, with all my anger in it, and then she said throw that letter away, and the next will be ths same information, but without the anger. I did that and it was freeing to make it short and sweet, with a date for when I preferred to leave that Job.
Funny now that I think of it, had I written that first letter and presented it with all my details of why I was leaving, the anger would have definitely SHOWED, thus giving a lot of my own power away.
When we first get sober and attempt using some good boundaries, it is a challenge cause when drinking or coming in hung over. we really never had any, well except for the Praying that they could not tell I was sick from a hangover.
So saying a Prayer that you do this, and feel good about it when you have completed whatever it is you need to communicate.
