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Nic


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Truth be known...I have come in here to debrief somewhat...


If it was day time I would go do some gardening, fencing or just hang with the critters till I soak up a some good vibes again.. but it's 1.30 in the morning and I have to go to bed and I have let a few folks (who I don't even know) get my head running and I just plain need to get it out before I can sleep I think.


There is a guy (on another discussion board) who clearly has some form of dyslexia or similar learning disability, and a few people (several of whom I usually laugh with) have spent the past 24 hours really hammering him about his spelling and poor grammar and lack of punctuation. He responded to the criticism by explaining he has a learning disability/disorder and suffers from Aspergers.


Well...in a kind world, folks would consider that, wouldn't they? Maybe do a quick surf, check it out and attempt some understanding...Nah, this mob just threw it back at him! Saying dumb things like they knew there was something wrong with him and he's not the only one suffering cos they have to decipher his juvenile attempts at spelling. One guy mocked him with a whole message filled with poor and ridiculous spelling...


I have never been very good at crying. I tried learning how, but it is more natural for me to get angry and rant when I feel sad. And I really feel like having a big rant right now, because everyone is asleep and I can't talk through it. I am left wondering what sort of world my kids have to grow up in sometimes... How folks can justify their own cruelty...And whatever happened to the biff? I agree that violence begets violence, but isn't that nastiness violence to start with? I am sure I would feel violated if folks treated me like that.


I'm sorry, I realise this has little to do with alcoholism...well, maybe it does? I was an angry drunk who really didn't know how to talk things through. Writing may well have been the only thing beside the grog that helped me get things out. Later in sobriety, I learned to sort out the stuff I got out in writing. It has really upset me that this guys attempts at communication have been trampled all over. Maybe I am just being hypersensitive, and over protective because writing and communication matters to me? Yeah, probably...


I still can't help but think that even as a kid if I had treated someone like that, it would have been very likely that some 'bully' would have come along and sorted me out in return...in my teens I KNOW I would have been clobbered...and as an adult in the pubs..well, gawd knows what could have happened there. Does anyone else think its a weird world we live in now? All this talk about not being able to touch folks, or its assault...When I look back on all the wallopings I got, I can remember the reasons for most of them and the things I learned. Do people today even realise that they are doing wrong, and hurting people with the things they say or do...or is it just ok because there is no threat of consequence anymore (particularly on the internet)?


mmm. Have calmed down now I have found a question. Think I can go to sleep pondering that. Scoose my ramblings, and thanks for being exactly where your at.


Nic


 



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its a cruel world we live in isn;t it. I'm glad this person has you on his side.


Give it to God Nic.


Hope you sleep well.


\\// Wendy



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Hi Nic. Theres a lot of sad stuff going on out there. It just seems a lot of people just dont give a dam about others. Self centered to the extreem. and are mad at the world. Tearing others apart to build themselves up, with hurtful actions and words.


Every time I go into the Alanon board, and even read some of the shares there, I can feel overwhelmed with sadness at some of the stuff thats going on in peoples lives, and thats just pertaining to alcoholism--not the rest of it.


I really cant go in there unless Im on top of positive stuff, and I cant stay long--cause it drags one down.


I guess we can be pretty grateful, that we are at where we are at, in our lives.


I meet people every day that are nothing but takers. Theyde be nice to your face and no sooner than your back is turned theyde put a knife in it, and not even flinch.


Have a court date in June over witnessing a wife and child assault. Another one likely, in the same month regarding an employee, and theft.


I guess all we can do is carry on with what we do. Our Best. And help others if we can.


You have a good day.



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Hi Nic,


Yes...people are cruel to each other, and I think that internet sometimes makes them worse. We can hide behind the fact that no one really knows who we are, making it possible to be as horrible as we want. When I see the stuff that my daughter's friends write sometimes it makes me want to jump in and ask them if their parents know they talk like that. And I have a few times, embarrassing my kid to no end!!


My theory is that it rolls from the top down. When I see my country's gov't lying and passing "moral judgement"(but whose morals?not mine!) I think people feel its ok to do the same. I can only remember that I have found a different way to live my life, and can try to raise my kids in that way. I may not make a big difference in anyones life but my own, but I can live with myself.


Get some sleep and awake with a whole new outlook on life. You are a special person and I love you.


Love, cheri



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Hey Nic, I'm glad you came here to vent. You could have gotten into it with the people on the other site but it wouln't have accomplished anything.My brother keeps reminding me that God gave me a double dose of compassion which means someone else didn't get any. If I could find the poor soul I'd give him his compassion back cause I know he must be miserable.


I'm glad you shared this with us. I hope you had a great sober day, as well as the poor guy the others were harrassing.All we can do is make our world a better place.


(((Hugs)))


GammyRose



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I'm so glad that you (Nic) have got a right thinking head! you'd be dangerous if you were a nutter! I l know what your saying about people with learning difficulties, I used to work with people like that all the time, all sorts of conditions, all challenging and all great to work with! There is far too little understanding in the world.


I was in a bar in a small Welsh village called Llanberris once, there was a complete a###ho#le in there who was really annoying me. I was just getting ready to hit him (unusual for me, I'm not built for fighting and don't like pain, ha ha ) when one of his friends explained to me that he had Tourette Syndrome. All explained!


Hope your well Nic, don't worry about the anger thing, I think thats normal for recovering Alkies, it's normal for me anyway!


Go chop some wood, it works for me.


 


Bye for now.


 


Chris.


 



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