Suggestions anyone...

cheri · Senior Member

Suggestions anyone...

ellen · Senior Member

14yrs says it all. It's time for her to do some separation, I mean have her own space. I would have to say that that is an issue that has gone on in families forever. Sharing, its hard for kids to be adult that is why they are kids.

I would say that it all depends on the schedule who goes first, ie who starts school first etc.

So how are you doing read the threads and it was another long morning trying to catch up.

My e-mail is marchese83@msn.com if you need to talk. Hang in there and hope your day gets easier. anyone else for that matter.

-- Edited by ellen at 09:39, 2005-05-10

Nic · Senior Member

Hey Cheri...

Am laughing...don't they strain our brains? Gorgeous one minute and ratbags the next.

I don't know if it fits your schedule, but I split my two up because they kept arguing over who had to miss out on whatever important shows were on TV.. the younger now baths in the morning, because she's an early riser and has the time, the older has hers at night. They can both dawdle all they like then, and fuss about with their hair and whatnot. It seems to work. The loo is in the bathroom though, so they both still walk in on each other, and roll their eyes and stuff if one is taking too long...

Try bribing the older one with bath bombs, just to kick it off. She'll probably find she quite likes the 'peace'.

Also - I don't let them leave their stuff in there... you know, the curling irons and hair clips and body lotions and all that jazz. If they have to carry their stuff in and out of their rooms, then they usually forget half of it. Conditioner seems to last a bit longer too...

crambo · Member

I hear ya.

In our house,its one mom, nineteen year old guy,eighteen year old guy,sixteen year old girl,eleven year old boy,and five year old girl, plus roommate guy,plus girlfriends/boyfriends of teenagers..three bedrooms and an attic, one bathroom.

I feel your pain,sister!

Jill

cheri · Senior Member

Ok, now that I've had some time to myself...

The underlying problem is lack of space and no privacy. the nine yr old worships the 14 yr old and wants to do everything she does. The teen wants to be alone(hand to forehead, said with Garbo accent). The one I really feel sorry for is my husband. We 3 females have pretty much delegated him to the garage with all our stuff.

I like the idea of keeping the stuff in the bedroom, Nic. I think if I set up a "dressing table" in their room the little one will be happy with that for a bit. They have to bathe at night already cause they're up and out of the house by 630 am. Their bus picks them up 1 1/2 hrs before school since we live so far out. So it's just the makeup,ponytail,hairspray routine, plus they are prudes and freak if one sees the other unclothed. But yeah, they sure can be little darlings one second and demon spawn the next. I wonder how my mom handled 4 girls? And Jill??God bless you! My older ones(20 and 22) are in the military, I can't imagine having them all in one house. I guess I did but I was still drinking then, maybe I was obllivious to the chaos then.

Thanks all for posting...I was at the end of my rope and had tied a knot and was hanging on. It always seems to look better after stepping back for awhile and regrouping.

love, cheri