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Dave Harm


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On another thread someone made a comment about their insanity early in sobriety.  And it got me chuckling about something I did.  Which at the time was quite honest but not very smart...

When I sobered up I was involved with family court.  My ex-wife and four kids were all involved with this.  I won't go into details about it but it was a very dysfunctional family and Health and Human Services got involved.  We were in family court for over two years and every session more and more details about our family came out.

About six months into my sobriety and the cobwebs were disappearing, there was no way that I could deny it anymore that my ex was having an affair.  A long-term affair.  Of course, she always denied it, not just to me but also the courts.  She could no longer deny it when I actually caught them.  It wasn't that I was stalking her, it was purely by chance.

So anyway I tell her that our marriage was over (we were separated at the time) and then I pointed my finger at her lover and told him he should pray that I never drink again because I'll kill him.

A couple of months later, in court, the judge asks me if I believe I can stay sober.  I told him, "Yes I can and if I ever do drink again you'll know it."  He asked me how he would know it.  I looked at my ex, pointed my finger at her and said, "Because her and her boyfriend will be dead."

Not one of my finer moments!  LOL.  But it was honest.  The longer I stayed sober and the power my ex had on me vanished, as well as my anger, I began praying for her and her boyfriend's health.  Oh, how I hoped and prayed that they would never turn up dead.

Like I said not one of my brighter moments.  Anyone else like to share a moment that you weren't really thinking?  LOL

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You said WHAT to a ....Judge, LMAO.

Just popped in here to say, have been thinking about the 4th, and your family stuff and saying a little Prayer that things will be different.

We change, and others can too,

Let us know how it goes ok??

I really dont have a thing to top that comment to a Judge. still laughing!

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Hey, yeah Dave, I'll be saying a little prayer for you as well. I really have a good feeling about you and your daughters get together. Early sobriety was strange for me as well. I was a young Air Force officer attending some joint training with other officers including Marines. The Marines looked down on the other services and I think they looked down most on the Air Force because we had such nice facilities and they lived in tents. Anyway, I was trying to avoid the booze and there was a pretty tough Marine Colonel who was part of the training, and he made it apparent he did not like me being a "loner", and was riding all of us in the group about one thing or another. He was pretty down on the whole group about somethng we....could have done better....and in his tirade he singled me out and angrily asked why I thought I was so special and why was I such a loner? I had about had it so I told him "Its because I am a f@#$%^g drunk sir, and I am trying to stay away from the booze!" He was a little tacken back because I was so young, but you know in his 25 plus year career, he had to have seen all the best and the worst in mankind, and you could just see the gears working in his head. He started to reply once or twice, and he finally said "Thats the smartest thing I have heard out of this group in two weeks"

-- Edited by turninggrey on Thursday 2nd of July 2009 09:43:19 PM

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In my first month I exploded one time at work.  Usually, anger is not my thing...depression and anxiety are.  I just stormed into my boss's office and went on a tirade about these 2 young women getting preferential treatment at work because I felt attacked.  I called them both princesses and stated I was a better therapist than both of them so stop talking smack about me.  That was an early sobriety brain fart due to brain clutter and I had to make ammends fairly quickly.

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