I am looking for other folks opinion on a local matter that has caused some controversy. A friend of ours is a newspaper write. He wrote an article that some want to debate referring to the traditions . I am the local Intergroup Chairperson & am looking ofr feedback. Your thoughts are appreciated. Here is the article in whole: ALCOHOLISM IS TREATED, NOT CURED- By Mike Xxxxx June 13, 2009 It was three years ago about this time when I started what I hope to God was my final slide. I drank alcohol for 30 years. Not all the time, of course, but a lot. It wasnt always awful, but it sure was at the end. There isnt much I remember about June 2006, being honest about it. I know that I had given up the drink about a month earlier because my doctor told me it was making me sick. That I already knew. I stopped drinking and thought that was that. I didnt realize that this disease had made its home in my soul long ago and would not leave so easily. My friends urged me to join a 12-step group, but I told them it wasnt necessary. Doctor told me to quit, so I quit. I bragged that I didnt need those self-help weaklings, that I had the power to do this on my own. How stupid I was. How ignorant. How naïve. That pride and ego nearly killed me. One day I walked out on my porch and thought, so this is sobriety. Pretty boring. I felt so empty inside. I figured four weeks of clean living had erased 30 years of hard drinking, so I started up again. I planned to ease into it this time. Instead of buying a pint of whiskey, I just bought a few of those airplane-size bottles. Problem was, I didnt ease back into it. My drinking was worse than it ever was. My health, which had started to return to life, quickly deteriorated. I was committing suicide, one shot at a time. I didnt know then what I now know: Alcoholism is a progressive disease. It continues to thrive whether Im drinking or not. If Im alcoholic, I can stop drinking for 10 years and 10 years later, when I pick up a drink, my body reacts as if Id never stopped in the first place. The best analogy Ive heard is this: If my stereo is turned up full blast and I unplug it, and then plug it back in five years later, its still at full blast. Thats alcoholism. I learned that its a disease of the mind and body. My mind obsesses over it. Once in my body, an allergy kicks in and I crave it until I can drink no more. That usually doesnt happen until Ive passed out. Most people are not alcoholics. Most people can drink normally, meaning they can take it or leave it. Most people I know are like that. They might have a few beers at the bar and then go home at a reasonable time to their families. They get up in the morning for work and have no ill effects from the night before. Not so with me. I was plagued or blessed, depending on how you look at with awful hangovers right from the start. I craved alcohol. I had to have it. I drank to excess and it nearly cost me my career, my family and my sanity. Yet today, I do not drink. I do not have to drink. I choose to stay sober today and have an incredible life to show for it. How did that happen? Through a 12-step program, other alcoholics who love me and a relationship I enjoy with God today that is more important than anything else. I bring all this up because the other day I attended the Drug Court graduation. Drug Court is an 18-month program for people who are in legal trouble because of drugs or alcohol. They stay clean for those 18 months, attend program sessions, keep out of trouble, and their charges are wiped clean. It isnt easy. Many people who enter Drug Court dont make it to the end. The disease of addiction is a powerful magnet. Many cannot pull away. Last year Judge Barbara Xxxxx, who is now retired, asked me to speak at the Drug Court graduation. I was thrilled with the opportunity to share some of my story in public and its the first time I had done that outside the rooms of recovery. But heres the point: The word graduation is dangerous to people like me. I will not graduate from recovery. There is no cure for alcoholism. I get a daily reprieve from the drink based on a spiritual connection with my higher power. People who are not alcoholics or addicts probably think this problem eventually goes away. It never goes away. Never. I cannot stress that enough. Think of it as cancer in remission. My alcoholism stays in remission so long as I dont pick up a drink. Alcoholics and addicts who do not follow a rigorous program of recovery often find themselves with a drink or drugs in their hands. This is not opinion; it is my observation of seeing what happens to my kind who stray from the 12-step program. They go out. Many do not make it back. The ones who do return often look beaten and bruised physically and emotionally. It is not pretty. We welcome them with warm hugs and smiles. With Gods grace, Ill hit three years of sobriety on July 6. If I make it there, it will happen one day at a time. I dont say this to brag because it was a power much greater than I that got me into recovery and keeps me there. I also say this: If I can stay sober, anyone can if he or she works at it. The life I have today is nothing from my previous life. Its not just the drink that God has removed, its all the garbage that went with it: guilt, terror, hopelessness, self-hatred, the feeling of doom that I lived with daily for a long, long time. A friend in recovery says that only an alcoholic can understand the despair of another alcoholic. Today I am happy most of the time. Joy has touched my heart and its awesome. Few things rattle me anymore. God has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams. Listen. This is serious, serious business. I heard recently that only 3 percent of the true alcoholics in this country actually seek help through a 12-step program. Once in the program, the odds for success rise significantly, but that doesnt happen without personal commitment to change a life from the inside out. How bad do I want my sobriety and the peace that comes with it? More than anything. If you think you have a problem with drinking, there are people like me who want to help. The phone number for the Alcoholics Anonymous hotline is xxx-0599. Or you can visit online at www xxxxx.com. There are 12-step meetings throughout Citrus County every day. Or call me at xxx-3228. My name is Mike Xxxxx and Im an alcoholic. Mike Xxxxx is a senior reporter and assistant editor for the xxx xxx xxx. He can be reached at xxx-3228; or xxx.xxx.com.
"Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy."
Wouldn't this article be considered "an outside issue"? I think the bottom line is that stuff like this happens frequently and there's nothing that you can do about it. If you want someone to tell you that you're right and he's wrong, that shouldn't be hard, but again what good will it do? I understand you're frustration, but there are a lot of worse things that have happened. Google "the midtown group" in DC, for instance. I attended the midtown group in the late '80's and it was an awesome celebration meeting frequented by celebs (the late SRV for one). The group went cultish and started abusing young new comers. I contacted AA world services NY about it and they said that because all groups are "autonomous" and they have no control (nor wish to) over them. It protects AA I guess, and for the most part it works.
Thanks for your thoughts. I must say it is not me that is upset. This guy is my friend & I find myself bias towards him. Some other folks in this area are up in arms. I was just looking to see what other ones thoughts were in reference to the 10th Trad. Personally I do not find any part of his written newspaper article that breaks a tradition. Just wanted to hear from other folks not local, making it easier to be non-biased.
Gotta admit that I skimmed the article. I'l read it fully later (trying to work ) and get back to you with a real answer instead of a drive by one. Whatever the hooplah is about this, they'll get over it. Personally I don't guard my anonymity at all as I think that it is beneficial to people who may be in trouble and looking, to see someone who is successfully recovering. Looks like this was the spirit of your friends letter.
Read and re-read that story, and found it to be pretty harmless, and it has already been done, right?
There was a well known columnist in San Francisco for the Chonicle, the largest Paper in the Bay area, that wrote about his own experiences in drinking and finding AA, and the praises, just like this man did. And I recall everyone being so up in arms, making such a big deal out of it. And my thinking was, it has already happened, and if he did not follow the 10th Tradition,
"Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy."
He could not recind the article, so thinking now of the spilled milk thing. For the most part, I feel pretty comfortable that this is not something that is violated very often. Of course it would be so great if it never happens ever, but when it does, what can be done, I dont see a lot of options here, is what I am saying. Like what is done, is Done.
Let us know if the uproar dies down, ok? and thank you so much for the Post. We would love to see more of you here, if you are so inclined.
Wishing you the Best, Toni
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Being on the inside (of AA) the article made me feel like the guy was 'tooting his own horn' as they say. Doing that INSIDE the rooms is one thing, but OUTSDE is a whole 'nother story.
I do know for sure I would not want to be nor would I volunteer to be the poster child for AA. I could very easily go back out tomorrow. Good reason for anonymity, huh!
~ Jen
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The article is to me a pretty clear violation of Tradition Eleven: "Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films." That said, the article has been written and published. Seems to me that a quiet, one on one with the writer from an A.A. friend is what is in order. Many A.A. members are not that familiar with the 12 Traditions and I'm sure the writer didn't mean any harm. We are all just "works in progress" and if no one ever lovingly corrects us, we couldn't truly recover.
trad 10 - AA has no opinion on outside issues etc.... the writer is giving his personal opinion on graduation from drug courts, not AA - no where in the article can I see where he has used the AA 'brand' to validate his opinion.
trad 11, our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion - I found this a very attractive article, again, nowhere does the writer say that AA will cure you, only that AA can help you and even then only at the last paragraph. all other references to help and support refer to a 12 step programme.
Maybe there's a wee bit of trumpet blowing going on but personally I think it's a readable and well constructed article. No anonimity broken (except his own, which contradicts the trad that says we will maintain anonimity at the level of press, radio and television, but he's not the first and won't be the last.)(oh yes that's the other part of trad 11)
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They're traditions, not unbreakable rules. They were written that way on purpose, with a bunch of "oughts" and "needs". The reason they were written that way, IMVHO, is that AA did not want to ever be able to control another person.
So this writer disregarded tradition 10 & 11, in some people's opinion, to some degree. What consequence should there be? None, at any official level. (And just how official could that level get anyway, the way AA is structured?) Perhaps it was a mistake, but all things happen for a reason and those who are having difficulty accepting it may just want to re-read page 417 of the 4th edition Big Book.
Personally, I have no opinion on the article except that I loved the analogy about unplugging a stereo that's at full blast and then plugging it in again 5 years later. I'll use that one sometime when a non-alcoholic quizzes me about why I'm still going to meetings.
Are you sure that if someone mentions AA in media, they must remain anonymous according to AA as it is written? I'm just beginning to study the BB and other AA materials. I am also about to look for work in publishing after finishing schooling for editing. So I find this discussion really interesting. The book that got me to here and to AA was Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp. This doesn't appear to be a pen name and she talks about AA directly, but only about herself and her personal story.
I've been wondering how the materials for AA get published and edited(or not edited).
I see the benefit of staying out of controversy and the other things the traditions mention about the organization of the fellowship.
I also feel that people not familiar with AA in the general public make assumptions (I used to for sure) about the organization with out real knowledge. It reminds me of talking about the Atkins Nutritional plan with people who clearly do not have concrete information about what this actually is. For example, I saw misinformation in a new O Magazine just today.
So when I saw the original message here, my first thought was, here's someone wanting to offer information about possibilities for change that are pretty awesome.
I enjoy reading everyone's thoughts on the thread.
-Angelov8
PS- Squirrel, I just re-read your post, I'll have to read that page tomorrow.
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Angelov8, that tradition relates to famous people that go on tv and talk about how they are sober in AA. First if they relapse after doing so, then people might think it's AA that doesn't work. If they act like jerks, then people may think that we're all that way in AA (well we do have a few of those lol), last is that no matter who the famous person is, there are people who already don't like them, so it gives AA a face to dislike, one way or another. Writing a book, imo, is not considered "Press, Radio, or Films".
To answer your question, it is not a problem to talk about or mention AA itself at the level of press radio and film, we are not to break our anonymony as "AA members" and thus position ourselves as authorities.
Like Dean said, mostly to protect others opinions of AA
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