Dream Free Sleep

bikerbill · MIP Old Timer

Dream Free Sleep

Dakota · Senior Member

Just a bad dream. We all have em once in a while.

Yoga is very good for emotional, spiritual and physical well being. It is something that could help to work through whatever is going on there. (go with your wife!)

It does sound like she is projecting. You are her sounding board and strength, but hopefully you can do somethings perhaps together to work out these rough spots. It sounds scary and hopfully the tests prove not so bad. But that unknown always gives us a stir doesn't it.

toni baloney · Senior Member

Good Morning BB,

Well I have my own little version of what nightmares are all about.

We have so much room in our little heads, where we just store our fears.
And then one day, that storage space just gets too full, and has to make some space, for some more, so it comes out in the night.... POW... here comes all the overload of the subconsious fears, feel like a truck ran over me for most of the day , but at the same time feel relieved that those subconsious fears are OUT of me. And I dont have to worry about having any for a long time.

Of course I am making my own stuff sound so easy, but no, first thing in the morning I am pretty wiped out, with my first thoughts in separating what is real, and what was a dream or nightmare, but by late morning I am ok.

Weird maybe, but it sure works for me.

Hope you have some good nights in the future.

Hugs BB,

Toni

bikerbill · MIP Old Timer

thanks for the replies, toni and dakota, I've rung someone up who is in the fellowship - that took a bit of doing as i am a bit intimidated by this bloke, but he ws the first number I came to in my phone - anyway, he rang me back after a wee while and we talked for about an hour.

Got the dream stuff sorted out, of course this bloke had experienced similar stuff - our discussion ranged far and wide, eventually I realised that what I wanted to talk about was my fears and how to deal with them - get them out in the open, get them right sized - and I wanted some reassurance that I'm doing my best.

Jerry F · MIP Old Timer

There you go BB...others have experience strength and hope that we can use if
we care to rely on them. We recover together and it was clear to me that what
you are dealing with certainly for yesterday was fear of and so is your wife. I
learned that the context of my nightmares were described by metaphors and
we I came to understand that life long nightmares subsided and real uplifting
dreams started to replace them.   I haven't had much success explaining fears
away like taking the attitude "It's not that bad an issue".   Most of the time its
about facing what the nightmare is telling me and inventorying my reactions to
it. My nightmares use to be very very real subconsciously. When I learned
to "read" the dream, understand it and where I was with the issue I became
okay.

You do have a good understanding of fear and the process of fear and the process
of reaching.   Now comes the practice on what you have learned. Thanks for the
experience share. I'll be sure to practice that also.

(((((hugs)))))

toni baloney · Senior Member

Sorry BB,

This am, was just in a hurry, getting my coffee no less, and really had not digested all that was going on for you.

And yes, just like Jerry, I can stop and identify or try to what the dream/nightmare is about, I have for many years of my life, and after being diagonosed, treated for 10 years for severe PTSD, so I have had so many fear dreams in my years, that to make some sense of what can come up and bit me in the butt, so to speak, I try to simplify for myself.

And for those of us that know what PTSD is like, nightmares/ very scary flashbacks, a very big part of it, not now but they sure were then, and getting to a place of first identifying what "triggered" the dream, like you have and talking to a friend, I will do that a lot too. The act of talking it out, to me makes a big difference.

So I am thinking now of your dear wife, and hopeing and Praying that she can find something that will ease her fears. And the tests are tomorrow, and then the waiting, hope so very much that she will find out pretty quickly, and also Praying that it turns out to a little something.

So I needed to come back and say the above.

Wishing you and your wife the best,
Toni

-- Edited by toni baloney on Tuesday 16th of June 2009 06:46:05 PM

bikerbill · MIP Old Timer

God's Teeth! I love you lot.

I hear people in meetings saying they are grateful to be an alcoholic - now I understand a bit better - we've got this fantastic, caring, solid, supportive bunch of friends who at the same time aren't afraid to tell it straight. You can't buy this.

i also hear in every meeting ......there are no dues or fees for AA membership......i heard someone say it's maybe because we've paid a high enough admission price

Sacrifice · Veteran Member

Hello there, Biker Bill, I want to share with you real quick what I have found to be true with my dreams good or bad at night. I have noticed that when I dream about someone in my past or in my present; that I have not completly resolved what ever matter between us was. It could have been soething small to something so grand that you may never pinpoint until you ask. I dreamed about my ex boss who had to let me go due to my illness, and she did not want to but liability was there. For weeks these dreams keep coming until one day I called her and sent a card apologizing for everything and ti let her know that I was okay now. Her response was amazing and after that no more dreams about her, sooooo that has worked for me and I wanted to share that with you. Thanks for your post.