I have been in the program for several years now and can't seem to escape alcohol. Like the book says, over and over, I build my life back up and then crush it all back down with alcohol. My sponsor here says he cannot interfere and just lets me go through the motions if I drink & am unwilling to get back into the book with him. I feel this is uncontrollable. I'm seeking serious support before I not only kill everything I've worked for again, but possibly myself this time.
What is it about the program that you don't think you're doing, in order to stay sober? It's a process, not an event, meaning that if it's not working, then you're not working it enough to get the desired outcome. I struggled for 2 years until I surrendered to the idea of doing everything that I heard everyone else doing, in the program, to stay sober. just saying
Dean
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Thursday 7th of May 2009 04:49:57 PM
I had a slip after five and a half years of sobriety and the reason it happened to me was that I lost my humility. I knew more then my group and I knew more then my sponsor. And ultimately I knew more then my Higher Power.
Upon returning to the tables I made a commitment to myself that all control in my life would be in His hands. Something I really didn't do the first time.
Humility is not thinking less about myself, but rather thinking of myself less. And most importantly, humility means that I am teachable - I still want to learn...
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"A busy mind is a sick mind. A slow mind, is a healthy mind. A still mind, is a divine mind." - Native American Centerness
And I hope we, along with the faceto face support you have in AA, can help you through this troubling time of relapse.
I was a relapse Queen for many years, and the simple fact was that I had not had enough, I did not tell on myself when I felt a relapse coming on, and I did not feel like I had much to live for to begin with. I had to come close to losing my life, in order to find something to live for.
I am thinking of you, and where you're at, and hoping that you can just stay sober for today, for this 24 hours. Once these 24 hour incrememnts start to pile up, it gets easier.
Hope and prayers coming your way.
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.