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I dont' know about all of you but my own personal pity pot is lined with MINK! It's warm and fuzzy and familiar! That is until AA got in the way!

I've been sitting on it since last Wednesday night. It started with BAD (I mean BBBAAAADDDDD) side effects from the meds I take for chronic pain. Don't wish to gross anyone out, so lets just say it really F'd my guts up! I was soooooo sick Wed night all day Thursday I alone decided to get off the meds and 'see' if I can deal with the pain. Little did I realize that I must be addicted! Now mind you, I ONLY take as prescribed, never was a doper, alcohol was my DOC. I certainly didn't see how 7.5 mg 1x a day could cause such severe withdrawal. But it has. I've had it all - nausea, sweating, chills, body aches, I haven't answered the phone, I called in to work, yada, yada. Don't see my pain mgmt doc till the 28th, so as of yesterday I took 2.5 mg and I've taken 2.5 mg today. Weaning off of it, I hope....atleast keeping  unmanageable symptoms at bay till my  visit.  I called, they're trying to work me in! Woo Hoo!

Sooooo. On top of all that I saw my Neur surgeon  yesterday.  Results of the Myelogram show FRACTURED spine at neck level C7 - for those of you not aware, I was in a car wreck  April 08. I have DDD and have metal plates in my neck since 06, one being at C7. The guy hit me pretty damned hard and b/c of my pre-existing condition I opted to see my Neuro instead of $800 XRays at the ER that would show nothing! However,  not knowing what I don't know, a 'regular' MRI shows little to nothing in someone with sooo friggin' much metal in that area.  A Myelogram should have been done FIRST, not last! Now,  the fracture  has healed and healed incorrectly! Hence the added chronic pain! Pissed? Yep! I was yesterday, at the Neuro doc. But, then I remembered insurance wouldn't let me even have an MRI until July, therefore the healing had all ready started. So then I was pissed at the insurance co.

I was told the fracture itself was not painful, it was the "healing wrong" that has caused so much more pain. That anger almost immediately turned into self pity (yesterday's Daily Reflection btw). I kept thinking "why me?" My HP did not get me sober to drop me on my head, did HE?! Then someone said the magic words, "Why NOT YOU?!".

The good news, I didn't want / don't want to drink over it. The obsession and craving to medicate with booze has long gone.  What I know today is that if I don't DO what is suggested in AA that obsession can and WILL return. 

So, instead of coming home after my appt and climbing into bed, which is usually my 2nd normal instinct , I went to a meeting and shared! In my sharing, I realized I have soooo much to be grateful for. I was amazed at myself.  I didn't know these feelings were inside of me until I spoke outloud.

AT this moment, I am concentrating on "nothing happens by mistake." And trying to get thru to my thick alcoholic brain that I may never know why this has happened or what the outcome will be. That is where FAITH comes in. Faith in my HP,  faith in AA, my sponsor and MIP. I have it right now. Don't know how long it will stick around, but I'm hangin' on tight.....


As I said, took the day off and about to MAKE myself get to the AA clubhouse and hang out a while before the noon meeting. I KNOW that's where I need to be. I can't continue to sit on this plush pot anymore, it's no longer warm and fuzzy. It's filled with guilt knowing that I am so blessed in so many ways, sobriety being #1 - I have NO right to feel sorry for me!

Whoever said "AA gets in ya" was right on!


Thanks for letting me share.....  I hope all of you are well today.

((hugs)) and love


~ Jen



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Before weaning yourself off a medication prescribed by your doc, make it the rule to talk to the doc first. Any medication prescribed can have deleterious effects when you just stop taking them. ANY medication!

Talk to the doc first before weaning or stopping any medication prescribed to you!!

Glad to hear you have wonderful support through AA. Good work!!

PS, i often wonder about acupuncture or just acupressure therapy. It seems like a benign way to stimulate comfort and reduce pain of this nature.. Also, proper physical therapy for specific injury types..


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I can relate. It changed for me after reading a couple john bradshaw books, where he described how we can get addicted to feelings (shame, guilt, grief, anger, sorrow, envy...) and the chemicals that our brain releases as a result. I made me feel icky thinking that my addiction had another arm lock on me. The only way that I found to get out of it was to make a goal to get rid of negative thinking totally. Whether it is about me or anyone else. If I made a mistake, I say "I'm human, I'm going to make mistakes, get over it, solve the problem (find the solution) move on". If someone else makes a mistake, I say "Their human, humans are far from perfect, even if they acted from purely selfish motives and I was slighted as a result, that's human nature, It's going to happen, forgive them, look for a solution, move on". And when my addiction tries to throw negative feelings all up in there I say "STFU, go back to your cave, move on, I'm going to have a great day, feel love and spread it around". smile.gif

edited:  Doll,  I admit that I didn't read your post first, just responded to the title (which is far from  descriptive).  sorry and hope you feel better.

Dean

-- Edited by StPeteDean on Tuesday 14th of April 2009 10:34:12 AM

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God bless you, Jen. Your post title was certainly misleading cuz all I got from your share was love & gratitude for all the good things in your life & that's shining out bright beauty in your resilience through your program. I'm sorry for your pain & circumstances but you're handling them great & didn't sit in self-pity for any way too long. It's natural to have our first reactions to situations & you're doing great. Thanks for sharing it in a meeting too. I bet you really helped a few with that one like you've helped & encouraged me today too. I have no comment on your medical stuff being inexperienced in those things but I am proud for how you're using your Altered Attitudes. Keep up the good work, Lady! Danielle x

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Thanks for the feedback, MIP family.

Dakota, don't worry. I've done this MANY times before. I've had DDD since 2003. I usually TELL my DOCTOR what med I will 'try" next. He trusts my judgement since he realizes I know my own body so much better than he does. If you've ever been on Opiates for any reason, Man! Them buggers can mess up some guts! and I GOTTA get off them! I'd rather endure the pain. You name it, I've tried it. Accupressure, puncture, PT, massage therapy, holostic meds, herbs, yoga, meditation and on and on....I've had to have several surgeries over the years and like I said, my spine in the neck area is straight up titanium, I'm gonna hurt - period!




Dean - O. Either way, I thought your response was right on.

As usual Danielle, what a sweetheart and a great inspiration you are to me.


Thanks again all. Feeling some better this afternoon........



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Aloha Doll...also be careful of being off of that pot for too long a period of time.
The mink disintergrates and it will grow hair of it's own...Looks just like mink
but adds to the itch.

I loved and related to your post including the myelograms.  I've watch myself on
closed circuit TV also...Yay!!  I'd be a masochist if I hinted I like them...either the
myelograms or the discogram.  I was blessed with an NS who refused to cut me
took me off of all of my meds and told me that the best thing for me was to learn
to live with the pain.   You will never know what that did for me unless you under
stood that HP will do for me what I can't do for myself in ways I could never think
up by myself for what ever reason I could come up with.  He told me that "most
human beings could not walk up right for any length of time under the load of
prescripts I was using at that time and while I was also drinking."   My HP knew
and used my NS as a tool to say we gotta do something different.  Course my
HP knew I was alcoholic long before I did. 

What you did and the feedback from the other members here is what will keep
me from a relapse in thinking, feeling and doing what I use to do with booze.
In fact a Tanguery on the rocks with an olive and an onion never released the
pain from my spine.  It always made it worse having to deal with the back pain
and the withdrawal of alcohol from my system.   I have learned a simple way
of dealing with the withdrawals that I used several years ago (7) that worked
for me and then I was able to attend a face to face meeting.  I knew the
withdrawal symptoms would screw with me and not kill me so I accepted the
screwing around and was patient until the last symptom...deep depression
came and went and then cleaned up, dressed up and went to my meeting.  It
isn't for everyone and worked for me.  The "most entertaining" part for me was
the voices but then they also had a meeting or somewhere to go after a day or
two.  LOL  Metaphysical training and practice helps daily.  That practice is now
a habit after 38 years.  If I am honest and willing and commit to the practice
of the steps required I will recover fully and beyond my wildest dreams!! 

It's now illegal to line a pity pot with real mink.  Anything else won't satisfy a
drunks ego so what other workable suggestions are there outside of what
you are doing that I also should follow.

Nothing happens without a reason.   Go figure.  I am also feeling grateful as
a result of your pain and growth.   Sorry and thanks.

(((((hugs))))) smile

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Thanks, so much JF. Your experience with pain and sharing it has helped me to stay on track and is once again a reminder I am not unique. I've been home, all alone, for several hours now and I've managed to make my way up to the pot once again! I think I had an ephiny (sp?) earlier. All my time in AA I've heard many say the longer they stay sober the less they know. I GOT that today! Out of nowhere, I KNEW, for the 1st time, what that meant!


Wish I could have opted out of surgery, but I had no choice. I was on death's door and about to knock. I was doing quite well until the car wreck. Doc says it just exasperated (geeze ! I can't spell tonight!) the situation.


Thanks again.....I'm sooooo grateful you all are here.

I now am going to finish my laundry and pack for Edisto AA Round Up. Would love to see you all there.

(((hugs)))

Jen


OH! btw: I've had that Mink lined pity pot for sooooo long, it would probably 'grandfather' in  rofl.gif



-- Edited by Doll on Tuesday 14th of April 2009 07:34:32 PM

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" Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain. "

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copying that!


-- Edited by Dakota on Wednesday 15th of April 2009 09:10:27 AM

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Hi Doll,

Did not know that you had all that going on. Hope so much by today, things are looking and mostly feeling better for you, an that the pain is subsiding.

Let us know how everything is going.
My best to you,
Toni



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Thanks Toni. Some better today.


Ya'll be good, stay sober and I'll share the details of the convention next week.


Toodles. :~)





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Thanks as always for sharing! I hope you are feeling better soon and it sounds like youre doing all the right things! Pain is no fun!! Love to you!!!!

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