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Quetzal


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While driving one day, a woman's attention focused on the license plate of the car ahead. The license read: B WHO UR. How can I? she thought. I don't know who I am!

Some of us may have felt confused when people encouraged us to be ourselves. How could we know ourselves, or be who we are, when, for years, many of us submerged ourselves in the needs of others?

We do have a self. We're discovering more about ourselves daily. We're learning we're deserving of love.

We're learning to accept ourselves, as we are for the present moment - to accept our feelings, thoughts, flaws, wants, needs, and desires. If our thoughts or feelings are confused, we accept that too.

To be who we are means we accept our past - our history - exactly as is.

To be ourselves means we are entitled to our opinions and beliefs - for the present moment and subject to change. We accept our limitations and our strengths.

To be who we are means we accept our physical selves, as well as our mental, emotional, and spiritual selves, for now. Being who we are in recovery means we take that acceptance one step further. We can appreciate our history and ourselves.

Being whom we are, loving and accepting ourselves, is not a limiting attitude. Accepting and loving ourselves is how we enable growth and change.

Today, I will be who I am. If I'm not yet certain who I am, I will affirm that I have a right to that exciting discovery.

From The Language of Letting Go

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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
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Thanks for posting this, Qx I have to say anyone who said to me in my younger years 'Be Yourself' used to send me into a blind panic because I didn't know how or who I was to be! Could I even live up to mine or anyone else's expectations & what did these have to do with it anyway! The irony was hysterically funny & it never settled my nerves, it added to the pressure.

I have an idea of who I am today. Mostly what my defects & judgements are of others & I've a lot of hopes about who I'd like to grow into but for the most part, just for right now & today, I know that who I am today is just what I am today. I'm learning who I've been & I'm still aspiring to be who I'd really like to be whilst at the same time staying humble to accept what my limits may be just for now with a hope to how they'll open up & keep on growing if I keep on growing & stay sober 1Day@aTime.

I think one of the most beautiful & wonderful things about sharing with another alcoholic whether one to one or in a meeting is that it helps me to find out & accept or change who I am on any given day in a safe & loving environment with unconditionally loving support. It is a Gift to be amongst my fellows in this fellowship & I'm grateful for all of you, Danielle x

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Wow-I love this read and it puts me at ease knowing that its ok that I really dont know who I am, who I want to be but...Today, I have options and the want and desire to really BE somebody!! MYSELF!!! That will come shining through eventually and knowing that its ok, no matter what it is I end up being...

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