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torn25


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Hi

I've been to about 3 meetings, my husband is an alcoholic, i have 2 very young children i am only 25, we've only been married for 2 years. I think the signs were there before we got married but i didn't take heed to them.  He convinced me that alcoholics drink everyday and now that's exactly what he does.  I feel like i am going insane, my family is falling apart, he's started to dip into our bank account to drink, his credit card is maxed and he is upset because i don't trust him to babysit. he's says he will never hurt our children. Now my life is on hold because i can't go to school because there is no one to watch the children.  I am constantly waiting to here that bottle open.  This morning he came home at 5 and the first thing i heard was the bottle drop.  I try so hard to make him happy and to figure out what is wrong.  This is not what my marriage was supposed to be like. HELP! nocry


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Dakota


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My son saw me with a glass of wine in my hand and told me that he would not talk to me til tomorrow because I was drinking. He was firm and said "understand"...not mean like or anything. But I tell you it worked because I felt sorry about my condition. He wasn't judgemental or anything...Just firm

I would hope that you have some parents or other sober back up to help you out with all of that. I feel for you. It is not a happy sitch you have there. Just keep seeking out support, from sober and healthy individuals... Prayers going up for you torn25

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The alanon board is next door   smile.gif

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727

The only thing that I can tell you is that he's not likely to be ready to quit drinking while he's still in a marriage.  Look for a plan that gets you living somewhere without him and keep it to yourself till it's time to move.  Then
If you care to, give him the option of getting help to save his marriage, but be very specific (do your homework) on what those conditions are that he he'll need to meet.   Otherwise, odds are that he will not change.

Dean

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nmike


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(((((torn25)))))

Try the Alanon site next door. There you will find experience, strength and hope. (Although I come to the AA site too as an Alanoner). It is the disease that causes us grief. It is the disease that does the talking. Go to face to face meetings if you can. Read the literature. Take care of you. And have a plan.

In support,
Nancy

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