Just as when we were children and grew out of favorite toys and clothes, we sometimes grow out of things as adults - people, jobs, and homes. This can be confusing. We may wonder why someone or something that was so special and important to us last year doesn't fit the same way in our life today. We may wonder why our feelings have changed.
When we were children, we may have tried to fit an outgrown article of clothing on to our body. Now, as adults, we may go through a time of trying to force fit attitudes that we have outgrown. We may need to do this to give ourselves time to realize the truth. What worked last year, what was so important and special to us in times past, doesn't work anymore because we've changed. We've grown.
We can accept this as a valid and important part of recovery. We can let ourselves go through experimentation and grief as we struggle to make something fit, trying to figure out if indeed it no longer fits, and why. We can explore our feelings and thoughts around what has happened.
Then, we can put last year's toys away and make room for the new.
Today, I will let last year's toys be what they were: last year's toys. I will remember them with fondness for the part they played in my life. Then, I will put them away and make room for the new.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
As I was reading this I thought of all the clothes I need to get rid of to make room for the new "bigger" ones!!!! lol But seriously, the toy I need to really put away forever, or at least just for today, is those dang cigs!!! Plan on quitting for the new year and will beg you all for some big old prayers! Hubby is quitting too so if Im not around you'll know we probably killed each other!!!!
I know it can be done as some of you have shared in the past, and that Im not going to die but Its been a very long time that this girl has been smoking! Hoping that I can use the same steps and principles Ive used to put down the drink! Shoot, then Im REALLY going to need some BIG GIRL clothes!!!!
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Just remember YOU don't WANT a cigarette, Lani. But, your head will try & lie to you while you quit. Eventually, when that evil disease doesn't get what it wants.. It gives up. I can promise you that because nearly 5mths on mine has. A thought may flicker or flash by but I'm not fooled. We're not fooled because we've learned about insanity. Keep that in the forefront of your mind & you'll beat it. Stay away from the first cigarette & remember if you have one, you'll only want another one. Any weight you may gain will level back off when you recover your healthy routine. Look forward to all that extra energy you'll have. Feeling your body healing is another joy to experience. Enjoy the whole process, Lani. We know anything worth having is worth a little sacrifice & think of all the plusses you're rewarded with in return. Another gift of recovery. Good Luck, Danielle x
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Progress not perfection.. & Practice makes Progress!
Thanks for the encouragement!!! Im really going to need it!!! What doesnt kill us makes us stronger, right!!!! Others have done it before me and you are proof to me that it can be done!!!! Thanks again!!!!!! xo
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
