Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us.
Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it's something we want and need. Many of us have learned to block our stop ourselves from getting what we want and need.
We may not reach out to have our needs met. We may be in relationships with people who cannot or will not be available to meet our needs. Or we may be in relationships with people who would be happy to respond to a direct request from us.
We may have to give up something to do this. We may have to let go of our martyr or victim role. If we ask for what we want and need, and get those needs met, we will not be able to punish people, or push them away later on, for disappointing us.
We may have to let go of our fears enough to experience the intimacy that will occur when we allow someone to love and support us. We may even have to learn, one day at a time, how to be happy and content.
Learn to let others be there for us.
Today, I will be open to identifying what I need from people, and I will ask for what I want directly. I will let others be there for me.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Great post today. The challenges of the holiday season and just the gloominess around me can drive me crazy and put me in a state of the poor me's.... There is so much to do to prepare for xmas...present buying, cooking , cleaning, entertaining....
My family is capable to help me but I need to remember to ask them for help. I can sit here and whine about all the stuff I need to do and expect myself to do it alone or I can ask for what I need to make things go smoother!
Its not even about helping or the stuff we need to do...Its the "lets get along and love each other and be kind" stuff too...We all get stressed and crazy and forget to just give a hug or a smile or even a thank you.....
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
