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tlcate


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Went out clubbing with the girls in the city last night.  Stayed sober!!!  Wasn't even tempted and felt nothing but sorrow for those stumbling around and their impending hangovers and remorse.

The biggest thing I walked away with is sincere gratitude for my life.  I LOVE my lifestyle - it breeds serenity.  I have an amazing daughter, and amazing home on peaceful acreage, a great job - there is no drama in my life.  I was struggling after being told for some time that I am not a good person because I don't have a big social life.  I need to get out and make friends.

I would not change my life for anything.  I do have a small group of friends who love me dearly and will be in my life forever.  But I am right where I am supposed to be.  I got home at 4am and my girl was sleeping (she is 16 and fully supported me going out) - but she had every light on in the house, the TV was going, and she had her bedroom door open.  She is afraid when I am not here.  I well up with pride when I think that I have consistently given her safety and comfort all her life.  I have been doing the right thing and am right where I am supposed to be.  I am being a great - sober mom.

That - and I am getting too damn old for this stuff.  Talk about meat market!  Personal boundaries???  What are those?  I felt like a little goldfish in a bowl of paranah.  NO!  You can't have my NUMBER!!!  LOL  I am BUSHED and feel like I drank all night anyway.  Tired, sore - and not looking forward to something like that again anytime soon.  I think the next outting I will take the ladies to the symphony - or for a country drive.  More my speed.

Have a wonderful Sunday!

tlc

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Wonderful share, Catey ;) I'm loving your self care & respect in your shiny new life. Funny how we really begin to grow into our new & more comfortable selves whilst appreciating the best of what we have done so far too. I'm glad you have such love & support from your loving daughter. It's evident of how you give to her in her growing years. God bless. Keep on enjoying your sobriety. It truly is the best thing we have & what enhances everything else that is beauty in our lives. Happy Sober Day :) Danielle x

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I too was around some "partying" people last weekend, and my own husband ended up getting sick on too much alcohol. I was really grateful that I had a "sane" view of drinking, the hangovers to come, the silliness of it all, the childish behavior... I too had a good time, but did not "miss" drinking. And I don't miss being out all hours of the night either!!
Luckily, most of my friends are married and "boring" just like me. And that's ok with me!!

Glad you had some fun and made it home safe and sober.

I do however miss that "good burn" the next day from dancing!! Last time I danced all night sober, I hurt body parts I didn't even know I had!!! LOL

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Tlc, while I'm glad that you could go out and have fun without drinking, I think you're pressing your luck and risking relapse by going out with your old drinking friends with less two months of sobriety. I stayed out of bars until after I got a year sober, and then only went for a good reason such as seeing a particular band play. And I would always take at least one other sober person with me for the next several years.
Have you been engaging in any extra curricular activities with successfully recovering people, that you've been making friends with in meetings? And just out of curiosity, what does you sponsor think about you "going out with the girls"? Don't want to a killjoy, but the "voice of reason" is lacking here in this thread smile.gif

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Gotta agree with Dean on this one.

It's highly recommended to change playmates and playground. I whole heartly agree today as I made that mistake.


My dearest and best friend of 29 yrs comes 2nd to my sobriety. No way would she risk me clubbing with her. She loves me that much!


Voice of reason is definately lacking..........


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Ah!  That is the beauty of it!  3 of the 4 of us were sober!  One lady friend has 5 years, the other 11.  Sober girls' night out.  Guess I should have been more specific...sorry!

I never used to go out with the "girls" - never had any girlfriends to go out with.  My bar time was always by myself and I wouldn't do that now!

Did talk to my sponsor about it - as I had some judgement around the one of us who was drinking - and she drank all right!  So, I needed some guidance on approaching it with love and understanding.

tlc

-- Edited by tlcate at 23:02, 2008-11-23

-- Edited by tlcate at 23:05, 2008-11-23

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"That - and I am getting too damn old for this stuff.  Talk about meat market!  Personal boundaries???  What are those?  I felt like a little goldfish in a bowl of paranah.  NO!  You can't have my NUMBER!!!  LOL  I am BUSHED and feel like I drank all night anyway.  Tired, sore - and not looking forward to something like that again anytime soon.  I think the next outting I will take the ladies to the symphony - or for a country drive.  More my speed."

Here was the voice of reason I heard from you, Tlc :) Obv, other messages of sober reasoning are all good too ;) Keep up the great new, Sober lifestyle, Tlc x You'll find yourself growing out of those old, wet places & into bright, clean & fresh new ones. Anytime I've found myself in amongst the silliness of other drunks, it's always reminded me of the emptiness & illusion that was there for me before & waiting for me if I ever slipped back. God forbid 1Day@aTime! Danielle x

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you fooled me with "Wasn't even tempted and felt nothing but sorrow for those stumbling around and their impending hangovers and remorse."

Great, glad to hear you're out with sober people having a good time. These are program people?

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Yes, the clubs were full of folks spilling their drinks on me, getting in my space, putting their hands where they shouldn't...

But it was also full of fun, laughter, lots of dancing, and sober girl power!

And yes, the girls are in the program!

tlc

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Voice of reason??? LOL I have learned long ago that 9 times out of 10, folks here are not LOOKING for a "voice of reason" unless they specifically ask for one.

But our wonderful Dean does have a way of bringing up the unmentioned, usually with a good measure of care and concern.

The very few times I have engaged in nights out with sober people, say at a bar dancing, I have found myself feeling like these people were my refuge. And thankfully, I did not long for the days where I was there by myself getting into trouble. But a very important point: I do know folks who have made it a habit and have gone back out as a result. So I stay away as a general rule. I don't think my husband would enjoy me going out dancing at bars anyway, as we have had to work on our marriage a LOT to get to a good place in it.

That said, I am so glad you had a good time tlc. And for that matter, sober dance clubs around here are not much different, so far as ill-behavior, meat-marketing and spilled soda is concerned. :o)

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tlcate wrote:

Went out clubbing with the girls in the city last night...felt nothing but sorrow for those stumbling around and their impending hangovers and remorse.



 *sigh* Ahhh memories...If it wasnt for alcohol I would never have had the oppertunity to be the reason for so many hungover girls remorse smile



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