The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr.
We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves.
We aren't helpless. We can solve our problems. We do have power - not to change or control others, but to solve the problems that are ours to solve.
Using each problem that comes our way to "prove" that life is hard and we are helpless - this is codependency. It's the victim trap.
Life does not have to be difficult. In fact, it can be smooth. Life is good. We don't have to "awfulize" it, or ourselves. We don't have to live on the underside.
We do have power, more power than we know, even in the difficult times. And the difficult times don't prove life is bad; they are part of the ups and downs of life; often, they work out for the best.
We can change our attitude; we can change ourselves; sometimes, we can change our circumstances.
Life is challenging. Sometimes, there's more pain than we asked for; sometimes, there's more joy than we imagined.
It's all part of the package, and the package is good.
We are not victims of life. We can learn to remove ourselves as victims of life. By letting go of our belief that life has to be hard and difficult, we make our life much easier.
Today, God, help me let go of my belief that life is so hard, so awful, or so difficult. Help me replace that belief with a healthier, more realistic view.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Totally awesome Carole. This is what is truly meant by "letting go of our old ideas absolutely". Acceptance isn't a grin and bear it practice, it's a maturation of thinking and attitude toward the realization that life happens and we need to avoid the drama and conserve our positive energy to make the best available choices possible. Once we change our minds to let go of negative thinking and remain in the positive, amazing things start happening. There is not enough bandwidth here for me to share all the things in my life that have changed, as a result of my shift in consciousness, that I call sobriety. But I can sum it this way. Today when I set a goal and apply positive energy towards it, it materializes so quickly that I hardly have time to get ready for the result. It gives a new meaning to "be careful what you pray for".
