I was wondering if anyone out there has been in a similar situation. I'm 39 years old and I don't have any work references. Hard to believe eh. Pretty sad, I know. I have skipped jobs so frequently and usually leave abruptly,without notice. Anyhow, my whole resume is a lie and I just go to interviews hoping that they won't check references - which, if I become a candidate for the position, they often do. I do administrative (Reception) work and I've noticed that there are very very few jobs advertised, lately. Anyhow, looking back I can see that alcohol definitely has affected my performance at work: Feeling fuzzy and unfocused, irritable, and easily overwhelmed. I was never drunk at work but I usually did not go into work feeling alert and refreshed.
Any suggestions on how I can deal with this issue. I do give great interviews and have a lot of admin experience - it's just the reference thing and the time spans of employement are totally made up. Please don't suggest I be honest in the interview - too too many jobs and too much time in between jobs.
When I start working I'll be in a similar situation. I've only had one real job that lasted any length of time and that was in high school. For the past 3 years I've been on disability. And I've had jobs that lasted half a day to maybe 3 days here and there right before I got on disability that I definitely wouldn't list for references! But I'm in school now, and that will be pretty much all that will be on my resume, hoping that doesn't hurt me too much in finding a job!
I agree with Doll, it might be a good idea to try to find a job through an AA friend. Then later on you can start with that for your references and be honest in your future resumes about when you worked.
now's the time for honesty and spirituality. being dishonest, to enable our dysfunctional behavior, is not going to get us anywhere or keep us sober. Have you thought of working with a temp agency and perhaps a company will hire you after a month or two?
