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Dodsworth


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i am in a weird place....i know my old gf is nowhere to be seen, and this alcohol seems to bring it all back with insane clarity....that is not good. My problem is getting sober, but at the same time, Stacey or (shall we call her that), just screwed me up, just a little more pride and I would be Godzilla. I may not need help, but I would like to slow down and be cool. Since she left, it has been a graveyard

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Enjoy feeling sorry for yourself and drinking until it gets so bad that you're willing to do whatever it takes to not drink again.

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Dodsworth


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ok. ty, jednorozec. I hope that as well.

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No one and nothing can "make" us drink! We use it as excuses......... It's time to get HONEST! if you want to get and stay sober.


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Hey Dodds,
Love the replies to your post here! You know we love ya and would love to see you experience how great life can be sober! You just have to be willing! Hopefully it will happen for you soon!!!!!

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You are not in a weird place, it's just life. I am in the exact same spot, but it is getting better, without the hindrance of alcohol.

Remember that a graveyard is a place of re-birth. Let the crap die there. All of the tools to change the graveyard into a garden of life are right here, at meetings, in the Big Book, and with your family. We are all here to help you

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Hey Dodds, It's really a lot harder to keep drinking than it is to be sober. Relationships are optional. If they feel good then they are worth continuing. When they cause pain, it's time for them to end. I'll bet ending the relationship is not something that you'd like to happen. Either way why drink over it, when it's only going to make you feel worse?

-- Edited by StPeteDean at 22:06, 2008-10-29

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Hey Dods,

Just out of a painful relationship - and drank over it.  Doesn't help a thing.

You believe the alcohol is bringing the relationship into insane clarity?  I believe you have the insane part right - but alcohol does ANYTHING but bring clarity.  It helps you remain in and suffer over the past.  Alcohol is the minister of shame and guilt.

No one wants to be with an alcoholic, except for crazy people like me who can't seem to get over them and miss them regardless of the tortue they have inflicted.  But before we meet them and get wrapped up in their hell - we would never invision it for ourselves.  So - if you want another good relationship someday - or to possibly get her back.  Sober up dude.

And you want a little pride - to be Godzilla ... quit drinking.  Again - alcohol is the minister of shame and guilt - not quite the Godzilla shake to go.

And she screwed you up?  Didn't have any part in that yourself?  And you want to slow down and be cool?  Ever seen a calm, cool, drunk person?

And don't do it for anyone else - even Stacey.  Do it for yourself.  You will be glad you did.

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Hey Adam, be glad for the time you now have to concentrate on yourself & get well. It's suggested not to enter into any relationships or make any major decisions for at least the first year or two & I agree with this too. Alcoholics Anonymous has a program of recovery that will help you to clear the wreckage of your past & learn who you are today. This is helping me learn how to live with a consistent happiness today I never had before. If you commit yourself to your recovery & prioritise your need for it your life will get much better like mine has. The only requirement for membership is an honest desire to stop drinking.

Fill your time with as many meetings as you can & you can choose your own Sponsor to take you through the steps like they have done. I drank for the first two months I was in fellowship & then I upped my game & did whatever it took to stay sober. There were times I truly came close to drinking again & at those times something always happened to carry me through yet another difficulty & the pleasure of each of those miracles was amazing & what I am glad I can say is my story today two years on & two years sober.

You're here because you want help but you can only be helped if you help yourself. We have all been where you are & so there is hope for you to be where we are too. Go to meetings & listen to learn. Keep coming back & share with us your journey. It's 1Day@aTime & you're not alone :) Danielle x



-- Edited by Sobrietyspell at 23:31, 2008-10-28

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Hi Adam,

I do hope that you have reached your bottom and you are now ready to accept how things are with your drinking. It isn't easy, but it's so much easier than carrying on drinking ourselves into an early grave, insanity or prison.

Try getting to lots of meeting and identifying with what is said. If it wasn't for my meetings, and my wonderful sponsor, then I couldn't stay sober.

Take care,

Carol

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