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Bryan39


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Dating sober is at the same time the most wonderful experience inamginable and completely terrifying.

I'm convinced much of the time I'm going to screw this up eventually 

incredibly afraid to open up to this woman.

I'm fighting desperately my long time tendancy toward codependance 

On the other hand

The fact that someone as pretty and smart as she is is interested in me has been an amazing boost to my self image.

since i'm not as self absorbed and am mostly winning my war against codependance i'm enjoying true romance for the first time in my life.

dating doesn't have to be one big party like when i was younger and drinking
the best date so far has been walking in the park and talking.


wow i feel better having shared that and I'll pop in more often take care all

 


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Thanks for sharing too, Bryan. Can totally relate to all those thoughts & feelings. Nice to see you growing with us. I'm really glad you feel better having said all that & that you'll be back. Tis what tis all about :D Enjoy & take it easy ;) See you when you get back! Daniella x

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"easy does it", "one day at a time" , and "there are no big deals" apply to relationships as much or more than anything else. Try not to obsess. It was a walk in the park, nothing magical or mystical, just a walk in the park. Hardly anything to get married over. smile.gif

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Did you ever try dancing "sober"..after you first sober up? :)

Now...thats terrifying!!

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"Try not to obsess"

Thanks dean i needed that one.


"Did you ever try dancing "sober"..after you first sober up? :)"

not yet and yes i'm sure it will be.


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Phil wrote:

Did you ever try dancing "sober"..after you first sober up? :)

Now...thats terrifying!!


I actually had a very serious dancing problem- the drinking was obviously a side-affect. weirdface

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Phil wrote:

Did you ever try dancing "sober"..after you first sober up? :)

Now...thats terrifying!!


Now that's funny. That was the first thing that I thought when I read the title of this post.

Good for you Bryan, and I wish you the best!



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Bryan39 wrote:

"Try not to obsess"

Thanks dean i needed that one.

Hey Brian,

one thing that my wise old sponsor told me, was to treat women, that I was dating, like one of my guy friends.  No better, no worse, same expectations. 

Example he gave was if one of your guy friends was to meet you somewhere on friday night, didn't show and didn't call, what would you do?  Now if the woman that you were dating did the same, what would you do?  The answer should be the same-  "wtf- why didn't you call?  Respcet my time or find someone else to play with."  smile   Same goes for favors, gifts, money etc...





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Hey Bryan! It's kinda cool that you have this particular "problem" huh?!

Phil, your post reminded of an episode of Seinfeld - "Elaine's dancing" - anyone see that? That's probably what I looked like drunk and would be even worse sober - LOL - guess that's a first I haven't done yet.....

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goood advice dean i'll take it to heart

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