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lizziep


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Hi
Ive just joined site and this is my first posting so apoligies if I get it wrong ..
Ive been in the rooms 5yrs now and have managed to stay sober a day at  a time (not bad for a girl that had to hit rock rock bottom before finding the rooms)! However I struggle with emotional sobriety people intereaction is just so hard and I feel all my character defects controlling manipulitive co dependant people pleasing FEAR and my head starts ... Thus friendships outside AA are few and far between ... Intimate relationships are worse and my head skips off down Waltons Mountain and everything gets messy .....
Its the Let it Be think I have trouble with .. my sponser has suggested that I keep chanting it in my head let it be let it be which does seem to work just wondering if anyone has any tips ??

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Have you tried sharing this in a meeting? I've found that 'putting it out there' helps me tremendously.

Welcome to MIP, btw. Glad you're here. I look forward to your ES&H


(((hug)))

Jen

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I can totally relate to you!! I am a social bafoon! I have no social graces. I was never taught how to act around people and I have a very hard time with it. I am ok on one on one's but groups, oh my!!! That is why I hide out here on the computer. For some reason it is easier. But I know I have to get out to f2f soon.
Anyhoo,,,,,,, a big fat WELCOME to you! Keep coming back! Your posts are very valuable for us all and for yourself!
Lots of Love,
Allison

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lani


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Welcome! Great job on five yrs!!! I have found that doing things outside of aa have been very helpful. I walk 3 times a week with a fellow aa and have really gotten to know her. I also go for "girls nite out"-usually a movie...Its fun to go out and do things and let it hang loose reather than just being in a meeting all the time. Give it a try. We have dances and canoe trips, etc so there are options. Just get out and do it and things will fall into place...

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And a "Big Howdy" to YOU and another "Big Welcome"

Just my opinion only and thoughts. :)

This whole program is about emmotional balance...

And trying to grow up at the same time.

Well  hmmmmm...

Number one.....I DONT WANNA grow up....

soooooooooo

Houston...We have a problem :)

One day..I can be on track.....and the next three...there are 2 brain cells arguing with each other

Some days I take life TOO seriously...and other days I just dont give a Sh##

And other days..Im in emotional turmoil, over people places and things. :)

Relationships?

I argue with myself alll the time...and wonder why I have problems with others around me..

Self Will, doesnt help...

Even my dog....looks at me weird..most days..



However...its the same old story...

The more that I try to work the program and the more meetings that I go to...The more in balance life is..for some strange reason...

I figure Ill get it all right...by the year 2055. :)

YOU have a nice day eh....

from Cana du

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QuikEnuf


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Welcome and congratulations on 5 years!

My HP has removed the desire to drink, but I still struggle with emotional balance. As Phil stated, I feel better when I am attending meetings and when I am working the steps.

I know I have a daily reprieve contingent on my spiritual condition. I have some really crappy days because of OTHER people, but I know why I am having them.(insert the serenity prayer) :)

Glad you found your way here, Daryl

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hi     when i came into the AA meetings, i was a loner, when ever i saw a photo of a single tree in a landcsape  or a single bird sitting on a branch, any where, sadness came over me as i was alone then,
people in the AArooms saw me isolating, and came up and started talking to me whether i had wanted to talk with them or not, they also said that if i wanted to break this common habit i needed to reach out, so i did, as AA was my lifeline, if i did not listen to any one there ,i was stuffed, i might as well have left and died somewhere.
the best info you will ever hear, providing you listen will come from 12step groups, it will either remind you of you,it will encourage you, give you hope, and be your friend, which is why AA still continues to this day, worldwide.smile

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Welcome to MIP, Lizzie. I had a whole share typed up for you regarding my social fears & ineptitudes lol but I lost it somehow & I know now it doesn't really matter. We're all here together, living sober 1Day@aTime It is a program to help us live an emotionally balanced life & to help us manage our moods & thoughts. If I didn't have it I would regularly fly off handles & be out there drunk as a skunk.

I'm glad I have a Higher Power growing in my life today. It helps me to deal with others around me who may find me as difficult to be around as I them but with this new way of life I can learn how to be more loving & self forgetting so that I don't have to panic about how others may be receiving me every minute of every hour of every day. Talk about being a prisoner in my own head!

The Program is teaching me how to 'play nice with the other children in the playground'. I'm not a great conversationalist but I can still be kind & give others plenty of space to be them so I'm being useful in that way which helps my self esteem. It means while I'm being good to others I can be good to me too. We're all deserving. If someone's being naughty, well, I can remove myself from that or deal with as appropriate too & which I'll usually seek advice on. That's all ongoing practice.

My God loves me & teaches me how to love. When I don't have that connection I pick up the phone to another alcoholic & compare notes & then have some more energy to live in today & do whatever there is to be done. I'm sure you're not as awful as you think ;) Have you done any Asset work lately? Good to have you here, lady. Reading you loud & clear, Daniella x

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Hi Lizzie and welcome!!! Don't have any advice on the subject, but I look forward to seeing the replies and also to having you here on board!

Joni

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Welcome to MIP Lizzie, awesome to have you here,

I like what Doll said, I also find that sharing my inner thoughts at meetings is very empowering.  the online community is also great, sometimes I need to work through things here and then I go to my f2f meeting and let it out there.

((hugs)) Debsmile


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Just wanted to add that there is a ton of help from sources like Melody Beattie's Codependent No More, Language of Letting Go, and other authors and 12 step groups. Seems a lot of us have some control issues that are really hard to address if we don't recognize them for what they are. I am not immune to some of the stuff you were talking about!! Hope we are able to help, and we are definitely here to listen and share our ES&H.

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