Well, hills alive said it well today in my other post.... "yes i agree with you its great to leave them behind, but dont be surprised if you come across another one down the track, except this time ask them whats troubling them,and god may cure them on the spot, cheers peter."
I have now been verbally attacked in a fit of jealousy by a woman I work with who recently put in her 2 weeks notice. NOW she feels she was cheated, and that SHE should be transferred to the other office, and not me. ARGH! The HR lady called me tonight and told me not to worry about it, that this other girl is LEAVING, and that they had not even considered her for the move in teh first place! It relaly gave me a valuable lesson though, that sometimes when you are the one who "get's the break" on the job, beware of retaliation and jealousy.
Oh well, it is what it is, and I just have to try to ignore any ensuing jealous behavior and attempts at sabotage, and I will be directing any questions about my new schedule to the HR lady, PERIOD.
UGH.... just when the boat stops rocking, here comes another gale force wind!!!!
AAAAAAARRRGGHHHHHHH!!!! Thank GOD I have a program, and i wish we could all just GET ALONG!!! I guess that's what I get for working in a field full of women!
Joni
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putting myself in this girl's shoes... she has quit her job, is a single mom and does not yet have another job.... someone else got what she had secretly wanted all along..... that sucks, and I feel for her. I will just keep my head down and be the nicest person I can be, regardless of what comes my way. MIP friends, you have my word on it!
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Joni are we figuring out how to snatch defeat out of the jaws of victory here? The good news is You got the job, the bad news is, there is no bad news. Like the New Yorkers say "faghetaboutit"
so right, Dean... problem is, this alcoholic hates it when everyone is not living in harmony..... especially when the disharmony is aimed in my direction. It goes against the most intense people-pleasing in the very core of my being. LOL
But guess what? Can't change other people... therefore....
~~~~POOF!~~~~
OH Freaking WELL!!!!!
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one more thing..... just realized that all this stuff is "foreign to me", meaning stuff that goes on in the workplace everywhere, every day....
"No WAY!!!!??? You mean there are NORMAL people out there who do not have MY best interest in mind???? well, I NEVER!!!" Tough lesson, but then, I have not been in a traditional workplace and sober for any length of time in the past in which to learn these lessons..... Guess my altruistic bubble has popped now....
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People pleasing is a tough one for me too (want everyone to live in harmony) I try and try, but fall back when it comes to that one......I'm sure you don't want to hear this right now, but my first thought was
"nothing happens in God's world by mistake."
Hang in there, you're doing great.
Love and hugs, my friend
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Joni, Does the word HORMONES mean anything? (You did mention working.....with women.) LOL One mans loss anothers gain. Perhaps her HP has something better in store for her just as your's has. We just don't know. What we do know is that we are where we are suppose to be at the present and there are reasons whether we know them or not. Leave this in the past and go forward. Wishing you the best in this move! Wanda
so right, Dean... problem is, this alcoholic hates it when everyone is not living in harmony..... especially when the disharmony is aimed in my direction. It goes against the most intense people-pleasing in the very core of my being. LOL
But guess what? Can't change other people... therefore....
~~~~POOF!~~~~
OH Freaking WELL!!!!!
one of my favorite AA slogans- "It's better to give a resentment, then to get one"
LOL..... the SAGA continues...... said Drama Queen pretended to "faint" at the one office today, first thing this morning (I was at the new office).... she went home. Please, someone get me out of this bad B-Movie!!!! It was all very interesting, to say the least.....
hormones? yes indeed..... drama??? this takes the cake.
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Lets see, 1. You didn't hand in a resignation, you got a new job. 2. She handed in a resignation, she disqualified herself for the new job even before she even knew if she was a contender. 3. She rags out on you because in her mind, she should have had the new job.
#'s 2 & 3 are of no consequence to you, not your problem. But it is showing you a really good reason why the HR lady might not have considered her. {This kind of behaviour over flows into other aspects of the workplace}.
So you see, you got it, you deserve it, and she's jealous. Let her be, it's her's to wear.
It's called: Life! We can't stop it, we can't change it, we can only live it today to the best of our abilities. And it looks like you're doing something right.
Have a nice day. Bruce
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Hey Joni! I KNOW you deserved the new placement and Im sure they are so glad they picked you!!! We cant worry about others and their choices....
I too put in for a new job and hope to get it..Wont know for a week or so as the directore is on vacay... Another girl I work with said she was going to apply for the same job. She has more senority and could possibly get it ahead of me...But, I told her I too put in for it and she should too if she wants to. Its not in my hands who they would choose anyways! She later said she wasnt applying because she thought Id get it over her and she would be crushed as the last two positions shes applied for she didnt get. To me, its in Gods hands. Im great where Im at but also would love the new position....Either way its a win /win situation. Just as it has been for you!!!!!!
I know how you feel though..we dont want anyone "mad" at us. But, we al have the same oportunities and may the best man win!!! (we'll see if I feel the same way if I dont get the new position!!!lol)
Have a great day!
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