To assume what other people are thinking or feeling without asking them is to invite misunderstanding. Just as disastrous is to assume other people know what we want or need without our telling them. Many potentially good friendships and marriages perish because of our false assumptions and our lack of honest communication.
Do we assume others can't live without us or wouldn't know what to think or feel unless we told them? Do we take for granted that "silence means assent"? Do we assume others don't have time for us, or don't care about us, if they don't call or go out of their way to talk to us? Do we think others can read our minds without our ever opening our mouths?
Since we can only assume the same limited or distorted thoughts of others that we have of ourselves, we each need to take the initiative to ask probing questions and give honest responses in our relationships.
TODAY I will not make the mistake of projecting my feelings onto others. I will initiate honest and open communication.
The Reflecting Pond by Liane Cordes.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Communicating better with my family has helped alot. Went to the store yesterday with my daughter and she was so irritable. Saying hurry up.......
Saw an old classmate and her husband buying wine, Jealous, Yea!!!!!
Got home, cleaning cherries at the sink and my husband was rushing me and getting in my way. Yelled, actually cussed, at him and threw some cherries at him!!!! So mature! But, ended up apologizing for my outburst and talked my feelings through with him....
Hungry....yes, sugar crash from the donut or two I had for breakfast... Jealous...why cant I buy those fancy bottles of wine anymore Embarrassed...my daughter didnt like the fact that my bathing suit coverup didnt hide much of what was under it!!!!! And said "put your boobs in..gross"- It wasnt that bad in my eyes but ya know.....
So had a melt down and had to make an amends to my hubby! Felt good, got it out and went on to have a great day!
Should add to the jealousy part....and Joni got a very cool new car for graduation!!!!lol
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Hi Lani, It sounds like your feelings got hurt. I know for me when that happens I end up feeling angry.
Those bottles may be fancy for the wine but it is poison inside of them.
And our kids think everything is "gross" when it comes to us. They think they corner the market on it all and we are too old to feel things like they do.
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I love your honesty, Rosie