We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes disruptive ones, and sometimes explosive ones that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings we and others grow. In relationships, whether it is a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it "going through the process."
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep others or ourselves under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling others or we have. We don't have to take all our feelings, and others' feelings, so seriously while others or we are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Hi Quetzel, I love those posts you put up. They are wonderful and makes life feel so much easier in those areas.
I immediately feel like I have to fix any bad feelings going on with myself or others I have had some kind of uncomfortable interaction with.
Just yesterday my youngest son and I who is so wonderful and we get along extremely well and with such respect had an uncomfortable interaction and just before he left I walked him out and made sure to let him know I love him very much and to ask if we were okay.
I was still unsettled and I still am this morning about it but I know he is very good at taking time and sorting things out so I did not call him on his cell and I know we will talk about it and be okay.
I am learning not to push these things but I am not good at allowing myself the space and time without a guilt horrible feeling of worrying and feeling very scared. I never leave my family members without a hug and an I love you. Because it may be the last time I see them or they me.
And when these things happen I hate it due to that. And it is one of the things that I set myself up to drink.
This has helped me in my quest to stop and just be and know it is all okay. And in that I feel peace and the desire to drink is alleviated. Thank you Rosie
