Hi there, I am new to this site so forgive me if I get it wrong. I am currently on day 6 of sobriety and finding it really hard tonight. I split up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago and am finding the lonleyness and depression making me want to drink even more. I know I probably sound like a madwoman but i'm not sure what to do next. Does anyone else feel this way?
Congratulations on day six of your sobriety. You're doing really well.
I'm sorry about the loneliness and depression that you are feeling right now. I guess that it is bound to happen, but it will still feel bad. And, you don't sound like a mad woman, but just someone who is hurting right now.
Have you tried 'phoning the AA helpline in the area were you live? I'm sure that someone would be more than happy to talk with you and to take you to a meeting over the weekend. For me, the only way that I can stay sober is by going to my meetings.
Or if you have gone to a meeting, maybe someone has given you their 'phone number and you could try contacting them. Or, do you have any friends who know that you are not drinking and could support you right now?
We all need a little support at times. Please know that you're not on your own right now. We're all here for you.
Please keep posting, won't you?
Take care,
Carol
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Get to some AA meetings (daily would be my recommendation and what I did for the first 3.5 years), plenty of people to hang out with there. Most of my friends these days are people that I met in AA. I started my sobriety the same week my x-wife and I split up. It was tough, there was a 2 year old child involved (who is now 21). You must put your sobriety first or you won't have anything anyway that's of any value. Good luck in your new journey.
I am with you!! I am a little over three weeks out. I am feeling the same way. I am over the excitement of being sober and back to reality...like what to do with myself sober. I have no effen idea. I have done all my things to do on the "to do list", and I am at a loss. I feel like I have all this free time now that is slowly becomming my enemy. This transition is really strange. Just try to stick with it. You can't appreciate the sun without the rain.....right?
Hello, Thankyou so much for replying to me, I am overwhelmed that there are people I don't yet know that give me more support than some of my so called friends. I guess i'm dragging my feet about going to a meeting as I went to one about a year ago and found it to be one of the worst things I have experienced, THis could have been because I wasstill in denial about my problem but also the fact there were 22 Men and just 2 other women. I know this shouldn't put me off as this was just 1 of many many meetings in my area. Thankyou once again, just knowing there are people on these forums that are winning the battle against the bottle gives me huge huge hope for the future.
Hello, Congratulations on 3 weeks sober. You must be really proud of yourself. :)
This is my 2nd time of sobriety, the last time I was good for 9 months and then thought that I had control of it, silly me as always it had control of me. This time I have far too much to lose and want this so much. I find the night times the hardest as this is when the boredom sets in. How are you finding things now?
This time I have far too much to lose and want this so much. I find the night times the hardest as this is when the boredom sets in. How are you finding things now?
what a coincidence, most meetings are at night . Let me guess, when you went to that 1 meeting, you thought gee, I'm not that bad. Luigi, there are women's meetings. Why don't you google AA meetings for the area that you live in and find some women's meeting to go to. Both of you lol. See if you lived in the same town you could go to meetings together. Do you really think that the people that are already At the meetings are any different than you?
Congratulations on 6 days sober. I too am in the United Kingdom and have been sober 8 months last week, one day at a time. I understand fully where you are coming from with the feeling bored and not knowing what to do with yourself. When I first got sober, i went through exactly the same feelings. Unfortunately, my physical health deteriorated when I got sober so going to meetings (not getting there, there was always somebody would take me) and sitting there was agony.
It does get better honestly. Again, due to my physical Health I havent been able to attend many meetings recently but I am beginning to wonder how on earth I found the time to drink.
Also this programme of recovery is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Heres just one example: As you will see it is 5.49am and I have been up since 4.45am due to my son who is 16 in 2 weeks and should have been staying out at a friends. Well, I was woken up just over an hour ago to an almighty crash downstairs and thought I had burglars. I came down and my son is slumped over the table, unconscious through alcohol. His bowl of food that he has made is all over the floor and his feet are in it. I woke him up and told him to go to bed and he walks the food all over my new carpets that were fitted yesterday. I will speak to him when he is sober but instead of raving and wasting my day in a temper tantrum and wound up and picking up a bottle, I prayed for him and came and shared on here.
It does get better honesty and even with my physical problems, I can still say being sober is really the best.
Congrats! I am 7 days in and have been to 5 meetings. It really helps and I highly recommend shopping around. I found an all women's meeting but it didn't work well for me. I then found a couple of meetings that were really crowded, hundreds of people. Thought I would die raising my hand in front of that many people.........but the applause!! It was scary and so comforting all at once. In groups that big they come up and welcome you - give you their phone numbers. It is fantastic. I went to get my 24 hour chip and the support was incredible. It is a really tough time - and even though you feel like plucking your eyes out and not patting yourself on the back - it sure is nice when someone else does!
It is a 45 min drive to the larger meetings as the local ones are small. I grab a bite, take a drive, go to a meeting...and before you know it the evening has gone by......SOBER! I have taken a commitment and am actively looking for a sponsor. If you start heavy you will find you don't have as much time for lonliness or boredom, which leads me in one direction...the liquor store.
tlc
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Congrats! I am 7 days in and have been to 5 meetings. It really helps and I highly recommend shopping around. I found an all women's meeting but it didn't work well for me. I then found a couple of meetings that were really crowded, hundreds of people. Thought I would die raising my hand in front of that many people.........but the applause!! It was scary and so comforting all at once. In groups that big they come up and welcome you - give you their phone numbers. It is fantastic. I went to get my 24 hour chip and the support was incredible. It is a really tough time - and even though you feel like plucking your eyes out and not patting yourself on the back - it sure is nice when someone else does!
It is a 45 min drive to the larger meetings as the local ones are small. I grab a bite, take a drive, go to a meeting...and before you know it the evening has gone by......SOBER! I have taken a commitment and am actively looking for a sponsor. If you start heavy you will find you don't have as much time for lonliness or boredom, which leads me in one direction...the liquor store.
tlc
That's awesome, ^^^^^ this is what someone who is putting a lot of effort into their sobriety, and consequently will probably stay sober, looks like. We must become as obsessed about staying sober as we where about drinking (replace drinking with it) for it to happen. "Half measures avail as nothing, we stood at the turning point..."
. Let me guess, when you went to that 1 meeting, you thought gee, I'm not that bad. Luigi, there are women's meetings. Why don't you google AA meetings for the area that you live in and find some women's meeting to go to. Both of you lol. See if you lived in the same town you could go to meetings together. Do you really think that the people that are already At the meetings are any different than you? 
