Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. -- Step Five of Al-Anon
Talking openly and honestly to another person about ourselves, in an attitude that reflects self-responsibility, is critical to recovery.
It's important to admit what we have done wrong to others and to ourselves. Verbalize our beliefs and our behaviors. Get our resentments and fears out in the open.
That's how we release our pain. That's how we release old beliefs and feelings. That's how we are set free. The more clear and specific we can be with our Higher Power, ourselves, and another person, the more quickly we will experience that freedom.
Step Five is an important part of the recovery process. For those of us who have learned to keep secrets from others, and ourselves it is not just a step - it is a leap toward becoming healthy.
Today I will remember that it's okay to talk about the issues that bother me. It is by sharing my issues that I will grow beyond them. I will also remember that it's okay to be selective about those in whom I confide. I can trust my instincts and choose someone who will not use my disclosures against me, and who will give me healthy feedback.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Was just talking about this with a friend of mine in the program. Shes got a little over a year. Discussing the pros and cons of sharing who we really are with another person. Maybe I dont have the right sponsor because TODAY, I cant imagine sharing honestly with her my character defects and past BS!!!! I guess it all comes down to trust! Im scared to death to trust one person. But as I see it, and have heard from other people, "the truth will set us free!" I know, I know..... Still havent got it in me to share these things......
Im guessing that by finally opening up to another person, trusting someone as I havent ever done that in the past, is what will keep me sober and help me change my ways! Its a doorway to having right relationships with others...
Shoot, I dont know and Im sure you all have been there! What really is the harm in it all!!
So, today, that is my excuse for not even progressing on step 4...Its out in the open now...Im a chicken shit!!!! Any suggestions??????
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
What a subject to talk about because we all have things in our lives once we are Clean and Sober that we do wrong. In my life I call it Sin, hope that your not offended. Anyway, What I want to do on my next 5th step is not to take it to my Sponsor. I will take it to a Pastor, not mine either. A Pastor of our Denomination however it won't be in our Church. That way I will have a slim chance of ruinning into him again.
The Sponsor I have today isn't the same Faith. I am and I truly don't feel a connection with her that I did with my last Sponsor who was a real hard act to follow. She died from brain cancer 2 years ago. She was the kind of gal you could tell anything to and she would tell you anything. I like my Sponsor but I don't have that trust level with her that I did with the Sponsor/friend I did.
My very first PSonsor was the one that got it all 14 years ago. I was so desperate and sick that I didn't care what I had to do to get well. Just tell me and I did it.
I have to go now my dog has to go pittles. Bye for now, Pam
Try to write about your life in a Biography form. Thats how I did it the first time,and it worked I have been Sober for 14 years, then more was revealed down the road.
If you were out there drinking and doing even 1/3 of the things I did. You have nothing to be afraid of now. You lived to talk about the things in your life that God saved you from. So that you can HELP someone else in Recovery get well. So place that pen to paper, or tap out that keyboard on the computer.
Is it Alright to pray for you..
Lord God we give you all the Praise! Take Lani's hand and make it an instrument of thy will and thy peace let it flow with the things from her past that need be written for her healing sake. Move her into allignment with your will for her life. Bring the Sponsor into her life that is an encourager, motivator and a Loevr of you God. Pour over her your Love, Grace, truth, and wisdom. Open the gates wide so she can hear your voice Lord God. Bind the enemy. For the Lord will be your Confidence.... <>< Amen
I will be thinking about you, praying for you, and checking in, Love in Recovery Pam P.
