Yes, there is a long period of reconstruction ahead. We must take the lead. A remorseful mumbling that we are sorry won't fill the bill at all. We ought to sit down with the family and frankly analyze the past as we now see it, being very careful not to criticize them. Their defects may be glaring, but the chances are that our own actions are partly responsible. So we clean house with the family, asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.
Reprinted from Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 83, with permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.
Thought to Ponder....
If you love someone, tell them now. Eternity is time enough for silence.
Recovery Related Acronym
T L C = Tears, Laughter, Caring.
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Having been in the program 6 months and my husband 9, I thought life would be all a bed of roses! Yea, Im still riding that pink cloud and life is sooo much better. But, what the heck happened to my children?!
Both are a-b students and this year they are totally struggling! Grades suck right now and I dont get it! Read the chapter in the big book about the family after, shared with some people what is going on. I guess I thought once I got sober life would be so great. Hellooo!!!!
Things could be worse and there really isnt any major stuff going on. Im just baffled. Know some of you have kids and could offer some ESH!!!! Or have experience with the people in your life after sobriety......
I almost feel like they have this big SIGH of relief and feel like they dont have to do it on their own anymore. Make sense? My HP certainly carried these babes through alot and they were always well mannered and great in school. No thanks to me. Just a little confused and sad. Doesnt help that they are 15, 16!!!
Thank God only a few more weeks of school left!!!!! I have suggested alateen: but are you kidding!!!!!
Thanks!!!!! L
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Lani, My son was on again off again with keeping up with his school work. It seemed lilke I had to hound him a bit. He got into a magnet program and his 8 grade teachers laughed and said the he wouldn't make it because he doesn't turn in all of his home work. Somehow he graduated with honors and went off to college. He did well his first year, then had trouble the second year and now has taken a year off. I'm concerned that he won't go back to school, but he's 21 now and living/supporting himself with his live in girlfriend, so I'm staying out of it. I don't want to be the cause for his rebellion, his choices will be his responsibility.
As far as your teenagers go, I'd try to get them to set goals and make them aware that they will be going off to school, or to learn a trade, but to get ready to move out and experience life on life's terms. I told my son that when he turned 18, "it's off to school or off to work, but the opererable word here is "off" meaning he will be moving out". How many parents (Mothers usually) let their kids stay at home till they're 25, 30....They're killing the children's ambition. I told him that I loved him enough to have him experience life on life's terms asap, so that he wouldn't waste any time learning how to be responsible for himself. Life comes at you fast, get ready and Gitter Dunn!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks Dean I guess I should be thankful theyre healthy and still fairly pleasant to be around! Someone shared if your kids did 1/2 of what I did..........I was talking to my stepmom about them and she probably is rolling on the floor laughing after putting up with me!
I am blessed that theyve been great thusfar and what else did I expect!!!!
Youre right, time does fly by!!! Before I know it they'll be gone!!!!! And, hows the new house. You havent mentioned even moving!!!! Hope youre making awesome memories there!!! L
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
