My best friend of 29 years lost her mother on Thursday. She was 63 yrs old and they found her lieing on the living room floor. Waiting for the autopsy to tell the story...this woman was a mother to me beginning when I was a teen. She opened her arms and her home to me on many occasions when life at my own house was unbearable. 29 yrs later, she was still 'there', still loving me for who I am, screw ups and all. She was the kind of mother I always wanted/needed. I loved her dearly.
She and her daughter were best friends. Now my dear best friend is hurting to badly. I wish I could make her pain stop......
So, folks, live life today as if it may be your last! Tell someone you love them. Tell someone you're sorry. Do that 'thing' you always think you'll have time to do later. But most important, don't drink and while you're in a meeting today, remember those who have helped you over the years. And while you're at it, would you say a prayer for my best friend and her family........
~~~Is it ironic that she died on April 17 and on April 17 my own mother turned 72! ~~~~
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Doll So sorry to hear about your friends mom! So young to go so soon! Be lucky and blessed that you knew such a great woman! Be there for your friend , like I know you will be...Remember the good times!! In my prayers!!! Lani
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Doll, I feel for you and for the family right now. I too had a mother-figure who was a great refuge to me in my early life. I have always believed that God gives us the mothers and fathers we need, sometimes they just don't happen to have the same genetic material as us. All we need to do is recognize it when we see it, and you recognized early-on some things you needed in this relationship with this beautiful lady, and you we blessed to have her.
When folks move on from this world, I like to think that it is because their Work is Finished here, and it is now time for their Reward.
I hope you and your dear friend who are grieving can find some peace and comfort.
Love, Joni
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Jen, There is no good time for it (death) and no easy way through it (death). My heart and love go out to you, your friend and the family. You were surely blessed. People can touch our hearts in very profound ways. We can learn from the good they put forth and in turn do that unto others, thus allowing the legacy of those special people to live on....... Hugs, Wanda
I realized this morning in thinking about her that when my own mother was pointing a finger in my face, this woman was puttting her arms around me.
When I was about 16 I got really drunk at her house one weekend she was gone and did something (to this day I don't know what it was exactly - blacked out I suppose) but she found out about it and 'banned' me from her home. It took a few days for me to muster up the courage, but I went to her and sincerely apologized. It was the hardest thing I'd ever had to do at the time. Even though I continued down the path of alcoholic destruction for many years, she did teach me a bit of humility that day and my integrity didn't wobble quite as much as it could have had I not had to humble myself..... I didn't even realize that until this moment.....
thanks for all your kind words.
Love you all!
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I had several of those surrogate mothers (and fathers) that treated me like I was one of their own. I had next to zero home life. It was amazing to go over to these friends of mine's houses and have dinner with their parents and siblings all there and getting along. I was an adopted orphan several nights a week. I'm grateful for the time and love those people gave to me, and wonder how much worse my life would've been without them.
Most definately, my prayers for peace for both you and the family as you go through this transition. How blessed you are to have had her in your life. May we all be remembered with such love. (((hugs))) Wren
I just got a call from my "real" mom who lives in florida. Wishing me happy bday (answering machine, I didnt pick up).....Dolly, your post has got me thinking. Here is this woman who gave birth to me, left us when I was 6 and Ive seen her about one time a year my whole life. Forgave her years ago for what she choose to do, (i thought) Realized early on that she gave the biggest sacrifice in her liife by letting my dad raise us.
Best thing she could have ever done. I guess emotions are stirring up realizing I have pushed her away and treated her like a stranger....Lots of emotions going on right now.....Sadness mostly!
My feelings are buried so deep on this one and actually shes on the top of my 4th step list....Painful to think of her now, will as usual sweep it under the rug for now....Looking forward to dealing with that resentment and moving on. Just didnt realize it would hit such a "sad" button for me just now!!! So, appreciate the ones we have in our lives who may not be blood (as mentioned) but who were there for us and loved us no matter what!!!!
L
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Prayers for your loss, Doll. She sounds like she was a dear & amazing woman. I hope you & your friend can find real comfort between your sharing of your experiences & love of her Mum. I hope she didn't suffer in her last moments & I hope the two of you & all the family can give great condolences for each other. So many memories. Blesses for you, Jen. You're in my prayers, Danielle x
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HI Doll, Sorry to hear about this. Last one took a chunk out of me but this stuff always brings me closer to God. Its a good opportunty to help and comfort others though I was at a loss recently but I found out it wasn't my place. God had others in line so I got to see God work through others and it was a refreshing perspective that opened my eyes to others good works instead of just my own.
Hope you can make the best of a hard situation .:) ((Doll))
