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Attended an ACOA meeting last night

Learned a few more things.

If one has gone through acts of betrayal in the past, that have caused hurt and devestation, it is very difficult to trust and love others in today.

It is difficult to go back and work through all that pain involved. So its easier to bottle it up, and just try to put a cap on it.

The problem is that that pain is always there.

The ability to trust and love and accept love fully in today is impossible.

Outside help and councelling sometimes, is the only route that one can take, and a lot of time, and effort is involved.

i can understand why a person would find it easier to just go into survival mode, and go behind the emotional walls to protect themselves from further hurt and devastation in their lives.

I cannot judge others re this topic. Ive done it also, in the past. And it took councelling outside of the program to get through some of that pile from the past. And to be honest I still am removing the layers of the onion today.

It is easier to park the car in the driveway, than it is to take a chance of pulling that car out on to the highway, for fear of an accident.

I can understand today, why people decide just to go behind those protective emotional walls and stay there.

To go outside of those walls is to risk the same pain or hurt happening again.

As much as one wishes to be loved and to accept love, it is impossible to do so.

The fear is always there. It never goes away.

For some--with outside help--it takes a long time to free themselves completely of that fear. for some--they never get through it.

Sad but true.



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Phil, just want to tell you you are totally lovable. Things happen outside of us - and they mess with our trust and willingness to love others - but they don't change the fact we are still lovable.


I've read some of your past posts. Seems you have a lot going on and lots of emotional things you're moving through? If you need a friend we can chat direct, if you want. If you have access to my website ( I think I listed it...) there's a live link in there. Let me know if you want to. I'll check back in soon.



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Goodmorning Phil,


Just drinking my tea,wakingup, getting in the mood for a shower for church. I wish we could work out the trust, fear, and damaged emotions for all our loved ones who are still struggling with issues. Then God tells me I would be depriving them from the realtionship He wants them to find and cherish with Him,ahhhhh!I see, thank you God.


My husband is still demanding to know where we stand, what's going to happen to us? when he gets out of the half-way house?My answer has stayed the same,we need a year of him being completely sober, as sugessted by his sponsor over a year ago when we separated.My husband is finally getting counselling for his anger issues, that is an answer to prayer, before that wasn't even something he reconized, never looked at the 3 other times in rehab.


I am working on my stuff, there will never be an end to fixing me. New things come up everyday, yesterday it was my Mom. See thinks I abandon her each time I have something to do, be it an AA meeting,church, or yesterday, I was a hostess at a wedding shower.But this is an on going thing from my childhood, she never wanted me to have friends because she could not control the situation, my Mom was the al-anon, my Dad the drunk.


I have to keep things simple, pray for wisdom, ask God to guide my footsteps today, lead me in the right path and love the way He loves.


Hope you have a serene, sober, faith-filled day. How's the waterfall doing , is it frozen yet?


(((Hugs)))


GammyRose 



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Just to say "Good morning to you guys." And appreciate your relpies.

Also just want you to know that ITS OK.

Im just working through some kind of a healing process and comming out the other side.

I dont know if it makes any sense, but to go through that healing process, I really want to understand whats happened with past situations, in my life. Not analyze them--just understand them, so I can accept them, as they have been, and as they are today.

Im ok-am through the worst of it. With God and the programs we have, it gives one the abilty to work through some of these things.

It also helps one to grow, and the last while there has been a lot of going forward, and some going backward. Its all a process of pain and growth, and acceptance.

You guys have a great day. Have a Mother that celebrates 80 year birthday today.

Big party and get together. That takes care of Sunday.:) Luv yus Onward Ho!! and baby steps.



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Gammy? The waterfall is pretty well frozen over, but it is still nice, once a day, just to park in front of it all inside the car, where its toasty, And a Tim Hortons--- and admire another one of Gods nature creations. There are many. Later Gater

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Nic? Thanku. --comming out the other side. Itll be ok. It really will, Acceptance is the key, and with understanding, one is able to do that. Its been a long haul.

You have a good day my freind.

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Phil, I understand about the healing process... it doesn't happen overnight, that's for sure.  The revelations and learning are never-ending, really.  Nowadays, I can live and let live.... let go and Let God... believe and trust that I'm a child of God and worthwhile.  I know that God likes to see us happy and our daily positive living pleases Him.


Healing happens with the help of God, and we become stronger and ready to move on to better and happier things.  You're doing it, Phil.


Happy, Happy birthday to your Mother.


Luv, Hugs & Prayers,


Alice



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